TW its over for good, time to go through the painful times

trigger warning self harm




So I recnetly posted about my girlfriend leaving me and I though she still has feelings for me as the break up was sudden and everything was fine one minute and the next she ended it, well I thought there was some hope and well we spoke on the phone and she said its it, she doesnt have feelings for me she never will again, when it was only the other week she was saying how much she liked me. But it's over and I've gone into breakdown mode, want to cut myself, want to ######6 curl up in a ball and die, I always stay in the idealizing phase so I can't think she is a bad person or think bad things about her, I just need someone to help me, I just don't want to feel alone, I want someone to tell me this wont last forever and I will get over her, but right now I don't think I erver will,. idk I need some help or just someone to talk to and I need to calm down

Hey. My friend recently left me and I took an overdose so I know how you feel. And of course it's worse if it's a partner.

What I can say is that I've been in your situation. So many people have broken up with me and I've thought it's the end of the world and wanted to hurt myself or worse. And I know it does feel like it's the worst thing ever, but it DOES get better. I now have a wife and if I hadn't broken up with the other people I wouldn't have met her.

It hurts, and with BPD we feel it more than most. What is an upsetting event feels even worse for us. You are bound to be upset. But it will get better gradually, I promise.

Sorry if this didn't help.

Don't cut yourself This will pass.

kah80 wrote:Hey. My friend recently left me and I took an overdose so I know how you feel. And of course it's worse if it's a partner.

What I can say is that I've been in your situation. So many people have broken up with me and I've thought it's the end of the world and wanted to hurt myself or worse. And I know it does feel like it's the worst thing ever, but it DOES get better. I now have a wife and if I hadn't broken up with the other people I wouldn't have met her.

It hurts, and with BPD we feel it more than most. What is an upsetting event feels even worse for us. You are bound to be upset. But it will get better gradually, I promise.

Sorry if this didn't help.

I am sorry your friend left you, I hope you're okay.

I have been in the situation so many times before with people leaving me and think I will never get over it but I do. I think its just fresh wounds so every day I am finding it hard to cope, all the thoughts of her being with someone else ect come into my head.

I am glad you met your wife. I hope that one day I find someone who sticks around long enough. I just feel like I can't let her go even though I know I should as she made it open she doesnt ever wnat to be back with me, her words were "She shouldn't have feelings for me" whatever that means.

TameQueen wrote:Don't cut yourself This will pass.

thank you, I didn't end up hurting myself, my mates came over and stuck me in their car and had a chat with me, offered to take me to hospital ect, thank you for replying