Do I have BPD?

I have a question if i might have a borderline personality disorder or not.
I am female in my 30-s and suffer from anger issues that impact my personal life
I often find myself in relationship with men that claiming they had girlfriend with bpd in their past. Men usually told they don't think I have this disorder even after our break up.
But I'd say most of my break ups were somehow related to my anger issues

When I went to therapist she told i might have borderline personality disorder that resulted my mood instability and anger problems although MD psychiatrist told there is no such disorder to diagnose people and he is not sure if i have one.

Please read the symptoms and advise if i have it or not:

* Frantic efforts to avoid being abandoned by friends and family.
I never suffer from this and I love being alone

*Unstable personal relationships that alternate between idealization—“I’m so in love!”—and devaluation—“I hate her.” This is also sometimes known as "splitting."
Yes I have this. This statement describes all of my relationship with men, friends and family

Distorted and unstable self-image, which affects moods, values, opinions, goals and relationships.
Yes this is about me and how I feel. I change my mind and goals a lot. I have distorted image about myself and always think I am not perfect or good enough, I need to loose weight. I don't value relationship with people. I change my opinion about same people every day

Impulsive behaviors that can have dangerous outcomes, such as excessive spending, unsafe sex, substance abuse or reckless driving.
No I never suffer from something like this - this is crazy

Suicidal and self-harming behavior.
No. I would never self harm myself. This is gross.

Periods of intense depressed mood, irritability or anxiety lasting a few hours to a few days.
Yes all the time

Chronic feelings of boredom or emptiness.
Yes definitely

Inappropriate, intense or uncontrollable anger—often followed by shame and guilt.
Yes I suffer from this a lot

Dissociative feelings—disconnecting from your thoughts or sense of identity, or “out of body” type of feelings—and stress-related paranoid thoughts. Severe cases of stress can also lead to brief psychotic episodes.
Yes I have a lot of paranoid thoughts - they come to my mind every day. Ex boyfriend told I must suffer from paranoia

quest99 wrote:
* Frantic efforts to avoid being abandoned by friends and family.
I never suffer from this and I love being alone

Impulsive behaviors that can have dangerous outcomes, such as excessive spending, unsafe sex, substance abuse or reckless driving.
No I never suffer from something like this - this is crazy

Suicidal and self-harming behavior.
No. I would never self harm myself. This is gross.

Firstly, none of what I say or think matters because you must be diagnosed by a qualified professional. the key identifier of BPD is an extreme fear of abandonment and a sequence of actions to avoid that abandonment, such as self harm, or threats to do so...You say you never suffer from this. Also, impulsive behaviors like eating disorders can have up to a 30% co-occurence prevalence with BPD. You seem not to be suffering from some pretty key features here. Nonetheless, you should contact a professional if you think you need to be evaluated.

Sidenote, when I read your comments about the self-harm and impulsive behaviors, I was offended. Suicidal behavior is not GROSS. It is SERIOUS. Impulsive behavior related to a disorder is not "CRAZY," it is a problem. You are stigmatizing features of something you think you may be afflicted with?.... Doesn't make much sense to me.

Just to add, the fear of abandonment is of course only one of nine symptoms and you only need five, so it's possible to have BPD without it. However it is, as the last poster said, something that typically characterises people with BPD.

I would definitely see a professional.

psystudent20 wrote:Sidenote, when I read your comments about the self-harm and impulsive behaviors, I was offended. Suicidal behavior is not GROSS. It is SERIOUS. Impulsive behavior related to a disorder is not "CRAZY," it is a problem. You are stigmatizing features of something you think you may be afflicted with?.... Doesn't make much sense to me.

It would be just as easy to take offense to your comments, if someone were inclined to do so. I don't think the OP was stigmatizing anything, just giving an opinion.

-- Mon May 15, 2017 10:59 am --

quest99 wrote:I have a question if i might have a borderline personality disorder or not.

You actually sound a lot like me, and I'm sure I have BPD, so it's certainly possible. From what I understand, there is no such thing as a "typical" case of BPD.

perejil wrote:

psystudent20 wrote:Sidenote, when I read your comments about the self-harm and impulsive behaviors, I was offended. Suicidal behavior is not GROSS. It is SERIOUS. Impulsive behavior related to a disorder is not "CRAZY," it is a problem. You are stigmatizing features of something you think you may be afflicted with?.... Doesn't make much sense to me.

It would be just as easy to take offense to your comments, if someone were inclined to do so. I don't think the OP was stigmatizing anything, just giving an opinion.

Perejil,

Thanks for your input I just felt as though if one were to have a disorder, why would he or she choose to use words like that? I'm sorry, but I don't agree with that choice of words. Gross and "crazy" are quite the choices. But okay, have a great day.

psystudent20 wrote:Perejil,

Thanks for your input I just felt as though if one were to have a disorder, why would he or she choose to use words like that? I'm sorry, but I don't agree with that choice of words. Gross and "crazy" are quite the choices. But okay, have a great day.

It's always tempting (especially online) to indulge in self righteous sniping and grievance mongering, and I'm sure I'm as guilty as anyone.

As has been said above you should seek professional advice. Fear of abandonment is usually pretty key I think.

I do agree, gently, that calling symptoms of BPD gross and crazy on a BPD forum is perhaps a little thoughtless, some lovely folk on her are struggling with these issues. Just saying...

perejil wrote:

psystudent20 wrote:Perejil,

Thanks for your input I just felt as though if one were to have a disorder, why would he or she choose to use words like that? I'm sorry, but I don't agree with that choice of words. Gross and "crazy" are quite the choices. But okay, have a great day.

It's always tempting (especially online) to indulge in self righteous sniping and grievance mongering, and I'm sure I'm as guilty as anyone.

You're absolutely right. I wish you well