Hate being controlled?

Am I the only one and is it related to BPD? I can't seem to find anywhere online info about this.
But I absolutely hate being controlled. Whenever I notice someone trying to grasp a hold of me, I feel so suffocated. I belong to a culture where women are usually expected to obey a man. I already made a post about my issues with jealousy in my relationship with my boyfriend (dating isn't exactly accepted either but we are planning to marry) but that isn't exactly the only problem. I hate when people tell me that my boyfriend is going to control me and it just drives me insane. I'm my own person and no one has the right to control me. I love him but the thought of him bossing me around just pisses me off. I have this insane yearning to be free and do anything I want. In my past I had an eating disorder and it was all about control. I had issues with this growing up, even as a young kid I always told my parents that I'm going to do whatever I want and no one can stop me. Sounds slightly immature again but I just have this weird issue with control. It's like I want to be 100% in control of my life and if anyone else tries to control me it creates this reaction of disgust and rage in me. I especially can't stand the idea of a man controlling me. Is this a thing or is it something else?

i do not know about bpd i wish too someone else would answer but i hate being controlled too. but i do not want to control others either. it annoys me both ways. i only like being controlled by people i like or respect and give it because i respect them by choice i could get submissive.if i do not respect them i hate being controlled.i want to rebel. and feel supressed. but i am sometimes under the impression that it bothers me more than normal.
i have this insane yearning to be free too.like i feel trapped and i want desperately to escape and be free.
i do have hate/love relationship with food. i do not think is so serious to be an eating disorder. but i get very controlling with it.obsessively controlling with calories.
sometimes i think from what i read maybe it has something to do with some kind of false self.but i do not really understand.