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Have Any BPD's Here Been Cheated On?

Postby avoidatallcost » Tue Feb 21, 2017 6:27 pm

And if so, how did you react? Did you take the non back, and if you did, how did that happen?

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Re: Have Any BPD's Here Been Cheated On?

Postby iate » Tue Feb 21, 2017 6:57 pm

I have. Twice. By the same guy.

First time - he didn't actually cheated on me, however he did intend to - it wasn't actual cheating only because the girl didn't want that. So in my opinion - it was equal to cheating.
What did I feel? I feel ashamed, because it happened on my party, so I felt like he made fool out of me in front of my friends.
I beat him. Meaning - I went into so aggressive mode that his whole face and half of the room was covered in blood. I didn't manage to break his nose though. Still regret this nose.

I happened to forgive him, what was my mistake. After a year he cheated on me again. As soon as I knew - I got angry. I'm really impressed that never felt I sad or abandoned. I was just enormously angry. I dumped him, ending this relationship with another beating.

Too bad, his nose didn't get broken again.
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Re: Have Any BPD's Here Been Cheated On?

Postby Calmerwaters94 » Tue Feb 21, 2017 11:56 pm

Oh man. Yes and no. He didn't actually cheat but him and this girl L were getting uncomfortably close. Once on a "date"( my friend P came along too so idk if it was a date really ), L happened to be there too and I got angry so he stopped hanging out with me to hang out with L. He and her were sharing the same chair and she was rubbing her arm against him and I came in and said something really rude to them. I would see him messaging her online and I would lose it a lot. I was very manipulative during this time and I would do whatever I could to keep them apart. I would cry daily and constantly check his facebook, e-mail, search him up on all social media and I would do the same to her. I had attempted suicide multiple times and had mental breakdowns at work. I would send L harassing e-mails and once I ended up on the phone with her while I was drunk. I have no idea what I told her all I know is to this day that moment brings me so much shame.

I'm still with my bf and he tells me he will not dare even look at another girl again. I feel shame and guilt towards it all and nothings gonna change the way I acted.

I just feel so ashamed from this I was acting crazy for two years, I wasn't even actually cheated on. I kept telling him it was emotional cheating but it doesn't even matter now.
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