BPD facebook groups... wow

They make me hate people with BPD. Anyone else? They seem in general to be just way different to how people are on here.

Every hour there's a new post saying something like "ok this is it guys :'( :'( " or "this is the end now today is my last day " and it's just like... these posts on these groups are constant and everywhere. They're so similar you can barely tell people apart by the way they speak. It's like these people who all speak the same way and dole out one-line suicide threats are expecting random people on the internet to give a ###$ that they're posting about doing something they probably aren't even going to do anyway.

It isn't that I don't have sympathy for suicidal people, I've been suicidal many times myself, but I've never related to posting some crappy line on the internet about killing myself with a bunch of sad-face emojis next to it like I'm putting out a FB status about having just eaten a bad-tasting cupcake or something. What the ###$?

I just saw a post from someone saying something like "Bad news everyone " (not going into detail in the post pretty obviously so as to provoke everyone to ask, "OMG WHAT'S WRONG OMG??"), and then the poster claimed to be her mother saying that the FB account owner / her daughter had just killed herself. I didn't buy it and other people didn't buy it either. If it turns out that she actually did kill herself, fair enough, that's bad, but.. wow maybe I'm just the most unempathetic person in the world right now.

To be honest I think there are some people with BPD like that. It's the kind of thing I could imagine myself doing because I have such a desire for sympathy and attention. I've written attention-seeking posts in the past and fantasised about writing a suicidal one to see who cares. But I'm not sure I'd ever actually go that far.

I'm sure not everyone with BPD is like me, but I can't be the only one, surely.

kah80 wrote:To be honest I think there are some people with BPD like that. It's the kind of thing I could imagine myself doing because I have such a desire for sympathy and attention. I've written attention-seeking posts in the past and fantasised about writing a suicidal one to see who cares. But I'm not sure I'd ever actually go that far.

I'm sure not everyone with BPD is like me, but I can't be the only one, surely.

The people who write attention-seeking suicide threat posts are *RIFE* on Facebook groups for BPD.
And I mean it's to the point that you can barely tell people apart from the way they speak sometimes. I don't even know how they can get any satisfaction from it when the people responding could just cut+paste the same response they gave to someone else earlier on who said exactly the same suicide threat in exactly the same way.

To me, it's become SO obvious when someone is writing a suicide threat for attention and someone who is seriously close to the edge. It's like the people who are writing for attention have done it so many times before in the past that they don't even care to even try to sound convincing anymore, Heck, throw in an emojii or three!

BPD manifests itself very differently from person to person, so there's bound to be some friction and disconnect between us as a group of individuals.

I think it's bad to do such things for attention, but it's also bad to feel you need to do those things. For me, I am sometimes feeling so awful that it seems like doing things like that are the only solutions. I wish I didn't feel like this.

kah80 wrote:I think it's bad to do such things for attention, but it's also bad to feel you need to do those things. For me, I am sometimes feeling so awful that it seems like doing things like that are the only solutions. I wish I didn't feel like this.

I think I'm just having a day where I'm just a complete asshole. I'm sorry.

oceane wrote:

kah80 wrote:I think it's bad to do such things for attention, but it's also bad to feel you need to do those things. For me, I am sometimes feeling so awful that it seems like doing things like that are the only solutions. I wish I didn't feel like this.

I think I'm just having a day where I'm just a complete asshole. I'm sorry.

I actually didn't take it that way. Too busy being angry at my friends!

I know that a lot of my emotions are not necessarily understandable by other people.

Facebook as a whole is way too cancerous, didn't expect any groups to be any better. But good to know it now and I'm happy I never joined any for the sake of my anonymity.

I quit Facebook mainly because it was useless to me, but also because of all the irritating drama. Besides, it only helps spread the plague of loneliness and depression.

When I attempted suicide I never even told anyone about how I was feeling, online or in person. I just swallowed a bottle of pills and laid down in bed thinking about how "it's all over."

If I were to pretend that I committed suicide, it would probably be not out of pure attention-seeking, but to see if people cared if I were to really do this. If people didn't respond sympathetically, I would likely end up thinking they really don't care if I'm alive or not. That's why I think that when you're calling people out on making false threats, you might be pushing some of them towards really killing themselves. It's best to be cautious and gentle in such situations if you care about other people, and treat every threat seriously.