am I overreacting?

I saw my ex around, she ignore me, then I find she talking to my friend.

he make me feel insane for four days, then I finally accept it was one off and he not reciprocate.

But then I checked her blog, and she wrote some snarky comment only he could of told her.

So I had a major breakdown worst one ever cause he must of gotten a call from her 15 mins after he left mine.

days after interrogating him with hatred, anger, paranoia. I got diagnose with BPD this morning so I return home and ask him calmly...please tell me the truth, i don't care if you're friends I just need the truth.

So he tells me he sees her at court weekly (he's in a bit of trouble atm, shes a lawyer or some $#%^.) and that she sometimes messages him on facebook rarely, but most of their communication is just regarding how i'm doing,etc and that he didn't tell me cause he was scared cause i accused him of sleepng with her last time they talked and also because i threaten to harm myself etc and cause he didn't want to make it awkward having to see her weekly yet telling her to ###$ off.

i'm still having trouble believing all this $#%^ tho, cause she must of called him 15 mins after he left my house, which surely isn't a coincedence, or maybs it cause i made him block her few hours prior?

either way this whole $#%^ has made me insane as ###$ and suddenly feels like I lost her again all over it's really starting to ###$ me off and I don't know if I can believe them, to make it worse she called me to see what was going on, how i am doing, etc but im sure that was that..never gonna hear from her again i bet now, i emailed her after asking if enough time had passed for us to be friendly and no reply, so I guess it's just back to cold silence again like it has been the past year

should i stop being friends with this guy since he lied to me initially? how the ###$ I get passed this chick? (Who loved me im sure btw, but i ###$ it up i literally keept telling her i wanted to date other people, then taking her back rinse and repeat rinse and repeat untill she rightfully hates my ######6 guts.)

Hi pax,
It can be really hard to work out if a reaction is an overreaction or not because of "Emotional dysregulation" that comes part and parcel with BPD, so if you believe that you reacted right for the situation then its probably right that you didn't "overreact" But the fine line many face is that because of misunderstanding of a PD it can come across (seen by others) as an overreaction. when in actual fact we feel that we have a valid reason for the reaction shown, its just they don't see it

Ive said many times and i will stick to my words, communication and understanding is all people need and if we react badly then tell us and then we can get some "self realization" and work on that particular problem. many just think ###$ ya im done. that really annoys me and it probably annoys you too, if some people took the time to learn about "why" we react it would be a lot easier to manage.

This is why i love this community because we all have different issues and are willing to learn from each other and that's a great achievement.