Does anybody else avoid social media?

I completely reject Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc (I honestly can't even name any more sites because I avoid all aspects of social media). I don't think forums count as true social media, but in any case I RARELY post on them (or any comments platform, for that matter). I'm not exactly sure why I do this, but I can tell you it's partly because 1) Posts on social media often seem like attention-seeking, which really annoys me, and 2) The amount of drama often involved in people's posts is just exhausting.

Or maybe I just resent that my life is so sucky that I never have anything to share? I don't know...

Anyway, I'm just curious if other BPDs can relate?

I don't avoid Facebook, but I do avoid just about every other platform. No twitter, no instagram, no skype, nothing.

My facebook page is pretty much just a place where I dump political memes, the occasional narcissistic rant, troll posts I know will rustle my friends and family and weed out the hypersensitive ones, and pictures of our family and adventures.

I actually don't post many pictures of myself. I've never liked having my picture taken, even as a child.

Hi there, I'm new but saw this post and can relate.

I most certainly avoid any and all social medias. I have run from a past of really bad things and don't want people from that past creeping into my life now that I am desperately trying to create a positive future.

Also, my impulsivity would get me into trouble, along with my jealously and everything else I tend to feel.

I avoid social media as much as I can unless I'm drunk which I shouldn't be because I'm an alcoholic. Relapses happen. C'est la vive. I want like a million likes on stuff I post and when I don't get them I feel like a loser. There's too much of my ego on the line... Black and white I guess but if I post something and get a positive response, I'm super happy. If the response is lackluster I want to die of shame.

i am on facebook but i have only 8 friends. i avoid checking out on profiles of my former classmates.

Yes I'm not on any social networking. I don't want people from my past contacting me or knowing anything about me. I have no desire to post pictures of a cheeseburger I ate, I think it's a bunch of stupid crap.

I have a Facebook account but I use it mostly for private messaging my friends of which there are 9 all of whom I know outside of FB. I don't post very often, mostly because my life isn't very post-worthy. A lot of the time it just really annoys me - all those cutesy messages about how much you love your Mum or best friend or whoever. And way too many cute puppy videos.

I sometimes look at photographs on instagram - of artists work, really have no interest whatsoever in looking at a million selfies. Otherwise I don't use social media. My friend has been trying to get me to sign up for skype for at least a year now - I did download it but within about 2 minutes it got deleted. I really don't like apps that expect me to interact with them. And there is no way I am going to talk to anyone on a computer screen live. I have enough trouble answering the phone there's no chance anyone is going to watch me whilst I chat.

So I guess you could say I avoid social media......

I removed myself from facebook about a month ago, and planning to drop most other internet usage as well.

A hallmark of BPD is that in life we often feel we're "on the outside, looking in"---a type of dissociation that can rise depending on our circumstance. Everyone's experience is different, but I've found social media really disconnective to things.

Stepping out of the bubble gives you a good opportunity to understand it better. Not sure if anyone here is interested in consciousness (I imagine there'd be a few), but there's a neurological sub-hypothesis that argues part of human consciousness is the collective nature of concepts being learnt and passed on; that the individual's sense of the world around them is strongly influenced by things learnt from other people. Meaning, the more in contact with other consciousnesses you are, the more conscious you become.

I'd coincidentally come across that idea just before quitting facebook, and I think in a very real way, the social media phenomenon is itself a collective consciousness that has made its users more self-aware---part of the reason for the increase in self-interest in global culture in the past decade. I made a point of blocking every friend before I deleted my account, and as I came to the last dozen or so I was deleting, it hit me: each of these people, these image-clicks to personality presentations, represent an "eye" in a collective consciousness I was leaving; each one of them a unique access point to information about the world around me. It felt both analogous and ostensible: In mainstream terms, I was, one profile security block at a time, putting myself to sleep.

It's not about whether the phenomenon is healthy or unhealthy, either; social media is only the start of many other significant changes to come. But, it's not healthy for me personally, and I feel much more normal and comfortable without it. Each to their own.

I only use Facebook to read BPD group posts, Skype and Hangouts for four people I met on Omegle, two of whom I'm about to lose I think, one is probably borderline, none of them can stand us being nonsexual. Those are the entirety of my friends. Occasionally I catch myself raging political stuff on some article or YT video, but I think that's pointless, and I'm 30 now anyways. I am too sensitive, or undesirable (for reasons of prejudice, not interpersonal competition), for any online group I've ever found, much less IRL.

Basically it's my therapist, and forums, and I was way more isolated than this before DBT, meditation, cutting out stressful behaviors, taking care of medical problems ...

Haha well, at least I know it's common among us, after this post.

Haven't used it in years.