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Sibling Bullying

Postby Kandk8 » Sat May 14, 2016 7:47 pm

I was teased a lot from a very young by my older brother and sister...My brother would say I was fat or my sister would say I looked weird...I can't remember the exact things they'd say but they def hurt my feelings and really made me question myself and my worth as a person....could this play into why I have this? I can't think of any other situation where I was abused or invalidated
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Re: Sibling Bullying

Postby Echinacea » Sat May 14, 2016 8:38 pm

Cant say for sure of course, but i think sometimes things in our childhood can be a factor ,
i know my brother bullied me a lot , but so did my mother so who knows what actually started the life i have lived and my molded personality

Do you see a therapist or anything at the moment ?
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Re: Sibling Bullying

Postby Kandk8 » Sat May 14, 2016 10:22 pm

I used to see someone but I didn't feel like they were helping too much nor did they believe I have BPD which I thought was ridiculous...I have a majority of the traits
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Re: Sibling Bullying

Postby jabberwocky » Sat May 14, 2016 11:34 pm

My brother used to hold me down and tickle me until I peed my pants lol. It wasn't really malicious, just a teenager messing with his little brother. My stepbrother, on the other hand was cruel...that's why I pushed him down a flight of stairs hoping he would die. :|
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Re: Sibling Bullying

Postby Cosmic Light » Sat May 14, 2016 11:36 pm

I was bullied, at times pretty badly, by siblings, which does seem strange because they are younger than me. One would constantly call me attention seeker, immature, fat, while loudly screaming about how it was my fault the family was ruined and our mother had so many problems. Another one started to call me mentally handicapped, and demanded I admit to being less than she. She's screamed vulgar names at me and sadly to this day to a great extent still does it to this day. On one occasion I was violently beaten in the cheast by a sibling (thankfully much smaller than me at the time,) who clearly felt like that was the only they had to control my behaviour.

Did the sibling bully contribute to my PD? I don't think it's fair to blame it directly. But there were many many occasions growing up where our mother plainly wittenessed the bullying behaviour in a way that it would to any rational person have undeniably looked like a potentially serious problem, and took abosultely no action. Siblings became just a couple more people of a growing list that she let treat me like trash, and I've come to understand it was that constant lack of any concern for my emotional and mental safety that in part caused this disorder.
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Re: Sibling Bullying

Postby Echinacea » Sun May 15, 2016 7:54 am

Kandk8 wrote:I used to see someone but I didn't feel like they were helping too much nor did they believe I have BPD which I thought was ridiculous...I have a majority of the traits


Maybe make a new appointment if possible and tell them about your concerns. After all if you feel that you have been misdiagnosed Its best to tell them your not happy and that your behavior has changed etc...

Has anything else happened other than what you asking here (recently) that has made you think otherwise?
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