she was diagnosed at 13

this girl i know (we used to be good friends before she stopped talking to me) was diagnosed bpd at age 13. isnt that WAY too young? i think she clung onto the diagnosis, even inflicted more of it on herself, "turned" herself bpd in a way, because it was an identity to hold onto. she told me about her dx 2 years ago, and then stopped talking to me. i saw her recently when i visited my home city and things were kind of okay, we actually hung out and chatted about stuff and ignored the fact that we hadnt been speaking for 2 years. but i know that unless i perchance to run into her again she'll never reply to any occasional phone call or email. i just wonder if she will always be like this. still dont really understand her. i dont think it's that she simply dislikes me. i wonder if i just put too much importance into old friends, maybe it's even normal to break ties after high school.... i don't know..

emptyvessel wrote:this girl i know (we used to be good friends before she stopped talking to me) was diagnosed bpd at age 13. isnt that WAY too young? i think she clung onto the diagnosis, even inflicted more of it on herself, "turned" herself bpd in a way, because it was an identity to hold onto. she told me about her dx 2 years ago, and then stopped talking to me. i saw her recently when i visited my home city and things were kind of okay, we actually hung out and chatted about stuff and ignored the fact that we hadnt been speaking for 2 years. but i know that unless i perchance to run into her again she'll never reply to any occasional phone call or email. i just wonder if she will always be like this. still dont really understand her. i dont think it's that she simply dislikes me. i wonder if i just put too much importance into old friends, maybe it's even normal to break ties after high school.... i don't know..

She was probably just lying to you about her diagnoses.

no she was eighteen when she *told* me. she was 13 when she had been diagnosed. I don't doubt that she was (by a very incompetent doctor), but I also think it can easily turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy, and people who have been diagnosed can become protective of that identity, and hang onto the idea that they're special in some way, have an excuse. i mean, if you've been holding onto something like that since you were 13... :s

Yes, that is to young. If you feel she's clung to the diagnose, the next question is, why? What could she 'gain' from that?

because lots of young people do? an angsty teenager who wants an excuse, something that makes them feel "special", even if it's not the best way to be special. to a kid wearing black and listening to metal, yknow... it just adds to their "glamour". even if it's only in their heads and they don't want to tell anyone... i don't know