what does a normal person even look like

i feel like because of my bpd i typically meet other people with bpd or another type of pd as well since i'm probably attracted to that kind of person... im just wondering, i know, "no one's normal" and all that yadayada but does anyone on here have any "nons" as friends? if so, what are they like? How do they feel love,etc etc? Of course, nons feel free to write in as well.

The title of this made me laugh
Frankly I'm not quite sure. Any nons or otherwise healthy people I've had in my life have left long ago- and with good reason. I don't blame them at all- imagine being a decently adjusted person and having to try and deal with/understand a borderline?
I think my mom was normal once but my father ruined that, and I'm sure my verbal abuse did as well.
On a slightly happier note- who wants to be normal, anyway? When I'm not busy feeling dead inside, suicidal or in a rage, I try to remind myself that as a borderline, we've felt some pretty amazing highs and have some pretty wild stories.
What do YOU think being normal looks like? I'm also a recovering heroin addict so I'm rather far removed from knowing what normal or healthy means.

Hi there. I'm a non.

To answer your question from my own perspective, how do I feel love? I feel love as a feeling of perfection. In order to achieve it, I see no other options than to actually be grateful for what you have and not long for things that you don't have. It is ironic, isn't it? In order to feel complete you need to content yourself with imperfection.

The highs a non can live with a pwBPD is incredibly powerful. But in a r/s with a pwBPD what goes up, must go down. So when a non is pushed and hits the ground from that height where the non once thought reached the ultimate happiness and perfect love, the non realizes that a love r/s that took him/her that high can't be perfect because of the violent fall.

So what does a non do? Looks for a r/s where s/he might not go so high, but at least if the fall happens, it doesn't happen from the height s/he experienced with a pwBPD.

Although a non is longing for love as much as a pwBPD, the non is afraid to have a r/s with a pwBPD, because pwBPD sometimes reacts in such a way that the non has the impression to walk on the eggshells.

I guess the difference between a non and a pwBPD is setting a threshold of what is acceptable and what not in a relationship.

To be honest I would rather be a non. Life with a mental illness has been difficult for me. Perennial boredom, no fixed set of friends, no trust factor, obsessed over small issues and nit picking, risky behavior.

I'd rather play safe.

I am a "non" but I am not "normal" other. I doubt that anyone visiting these boards would consider themselves as normal, and if they do, they are probably lying to themselves. I came today to try and figure out why my sister is the way she is, because I believe she has BPD or NPD. We are currently not speaking because of her abusive behavior toward me. I just couldn't take it anymore. I love my sister, she says she loves me, but all she does is hurt me.

Love to me is when you are willing to sacrifice your own wants and needs to put the needs of others above your own. It's when you find joy in making other people happy, even if that means that you don't get everything you want. When you show this kind of love to someone else you aren't losing, because if the person you are loving shows you love in return, they will make keeping you happy their priority as well. It's a give and take. Sometimes you are giving and they take, and sometimes they are giving and you are taking. When it becomes all about one person taking from the other without giving anything in return, love stops and the relationship fails because the person who is always on the giving end can't give any more. Above all, it's about finding joy in making others happy.

I'd embed a picture of myself because despite insanity, I estimate as normal, but I wouldn't want any mods running after me for not protecting the tranche of privacy I couldn't give a $#%^ about.

On a serious note, I don't think anyone is 'normal' regardless of psyche.