Bpd and abuse at a young age

I've been told by my doctor and have also read online that bpd stems from a history of abuse at a young age. I was abused twice, but neither instance was really that bad. I don't see how it could have caused this crap. Do you think the two correlate?

BPD isn't always the result of abuse, it has many foundations. Depends on how severe the abuse was, some people take it harder than others, some are not affected by the abuse at all.

While it's good that you're trying to figure yourself out, it's also important that you take caution, sometimes we read too much into things when trying to piece things together.

I agree with Cyberfang. Some people are resilient and they somehow manage to remain okay despite the abuse. In some cases abuse is not that severe at all (depends on how you see it). I read a research that said that bpd could be inherited, that genetics also plays a part. I believe my BPD was caused by abuse, abandonment and neglect.

Thanks, Erato! mutual is nice. I personally believe my traits started at a young age and overtime developed into BPD indicators at around age 13-14. My Biofather got up and left before I was even born, but for some reason I've always held onto that, there's no memories, zilch. I'll always believe that his departure plays it's part in my 'development' -- growing up I had a lot of problems relating to those around me, at a very early age I was pushing people away and mastering manipulation.

It's sad to think some people endure these things throughout their childhood, but I always knew there was something 'different' about how my brain worked, just never quite knew what it was.

I remember crying wolf often, I'd claim the kids at school were tormenting me, but is that even true? probably not. I had quite a few nasty bones in my body back then, but I've learned better.

Abuse comes in many colours, it's something I have zero tolerance for. It's unacceptable.

just like aspd if it's not in you you can never get it
but you can get it in way differend grades and surcumastances can influence that
but pts or trauma does not lead to bpd if it's not allready there
son't cunfuse it
i can understand that humans like to identefy with a label and that' why ppl need a diagnosis

Thanks. That all makes sense. I imagine the trigger came up a few years ago in a benign way. I think I have a better idea about what caused it to surface though, so thanks.

It's considered both nature + nuture afaik. The nature part can be pretty big, and not much of an environmental trigger is necessary for the disorder to develop, or the predisposition can be small but a large amount of adverse experiences trigger the disorder, and anything in between.

Abuse can definitely be a trigger if you're predisposed to the disorder. Madjoe is right that you have to have the disposition, but having the disposition without any adverse childhood experiences is probably not very common (but can happen).

Blame it on genes. That way "nobody" is to blame, and we can continue to ###$ up our kids, and generations thereof, as much as we please without moral or legal repercussion. Yay!

I was heavily abused at a young age up until still now sometimes but I honestly believe my BPD stems like 90% from sheer invalidation on both my parents parts. When I was happy I was told I was being "obnoxious" and when I was sad I was " too sensitive". Everything I did was wrong. My emotions, opinions, values, the clothes I wore were wrong wrong wrong! (and still are lol yay) and that's what I think was more the causation. Maybe you can relate.

I strongly suspect that my mother was BPD, which is why I read up on the disorder. She had been severely abused by her parents and then married an abusive NPD. His abuse was horrible; I know because I endured it myself (scapegoat). By all reports the family watched her go downhill after marrying him.

After a lot of reading and talking with folks, I think when discussing "nature vs. nuture" people forget a few important points: (1) There are tons of people who were abused as children who are in denial and refuse to admit that they were abused!! I know a bunch of them personally, so I know they're out there. They say things like, "My dad beat my ass with his leather strap at age 17, and I couldn't walk for 3 days, but I deserved it!" (2) Repressed memories. Sometimes the abuse is so painful for the individual that they literally can't recall the event. I was in this stage for DECADES. If anyone asked me if I had ever suffered abuse, I would swear that I had not!! But I HAD.

Of course, the above doesn't occur in all cases. But the point is that folks who insist they were NOT abused as children may be in denial or may not remember, i.e. these are SUBJECTIVE accounts so may be incorrect.