My boyfriend dumped me lastnight

I'm a wreck. My boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me and I think he's totally done with me. He's given me so many chances and my impulses just get the best of me. I've broken up numerous times with him not meaning too...it's just he says something I don't agree with, get upset, and say I'm done. Well, not he is done...really done I think. I cried myself to sleep lastnight and I miss him so much. I'm the girl that texted a zillion times whenever I impulsively broke up with him saying sorry, I won't do it again, I love you, etc. And of course it happened again. Sorry if this post is all over the place. I was basically begging him to please please give me one last chance. Unfortunately, that's the exact same thing I said last time. After begging for 2 hours I said ok. He said he loves me but doesn't see it working. He wants to be alone, he doesn't want to be with anyone. I stressed him out so much. He is a very simple person. When you add me, a complex person into his life, his life is no longer simple. I have been improving GREATLY since we have been together. I stopped abusing pills, I started looking for a job, I'm cleaning up the house more, get my bills organized, etc. I guess he just had enough and I can't stand it. I'm balling my eyes out as I'm typing. I love him and want him back. And it's not an abandonment issue because I can just pick another person if I wanted. It's him I want. He is texting me today friendly and I'm responding friendly. I want to ask him to give another chance but I don't want to ruin a possible chance in the future. Help!

Hey dear one! I doubt it was all you ok! Don't take all the blame. He sounds a bit unreasonable and he may have his own $#%^ and is blaming it on you.

You know your part and that's good but don't demonize yourself like that <3


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itsmestacy-77 wrote:I'm a wreck. My boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me and I think he's totally done with me. He's given me so many chances and my impulses just get the best of me. I've broken up numerous times with him not meaning too...it's just he says something I don't agree with, get upset, and say I'm done. Well, not he is done...really done I think. I cried myself to sleep lastnight and I miss him so much. I'm the girl that texted a zillion times whenever I impulsively broke up with him saying sorry, I won't do it again, I love you, etc. And of course it happened again. Sorry if this post is all over the place. I was basically begging him to please please give me one last chance. Unfortunately, that's the exact same thing I said last time. After begging for 2 hours I said ok. He said he loves me but doesn't see it working. He wants to be alone, he doesn't want to be with anyone. I stressed him out so much. He is a very simple person. When you add me, a complex person into his life, his life is no longer simple. I have been improving GREATLY since we have been together. I stopped abusing pills, I started looking for a job, I'm cleaning up the house more, get my bills organized, etc. I guess he just had enough and I can't stand it. I'm balling my eyes out as I'm typing. I love him and want him back. And it's not an abandonment issue because I can just pick another person if I wanted. It's him I want. He is texting me today friendly and I'm responding friendly. I want to ask him to give another chance but I don't want to ruin a possible chance in the future. Help!

Hi there, i'm a non btw

You sound reasonable and like you have made a big effort, and you own your side of things which is great!

Sometimes things get heated and a bit of time is needed.

If he is still contacting you, he still cares he may just need time to think.

Best might be to use this time to show you can control your impulses, so talk to him, e friendly and if you want to get back together say that!

but avoid begging and pleading, it's demeaning and has the opposite effect, state cleaarly and calmly that you want to get back, apologise if you feel you did wrong but don't overdo it.

Love doesn't switch off overnight (especially for non's) so dont panic too much

Best of luck

Hi itsmestacy-77,
Firstly i would like to give you a virtual hug, i know how much i needed one when it happened to me.

My break up was exactly said like that too, "i cant cope anymore" my glass is full, "my brain is numb" its not working etc...And me being stubborn said "yeah ok, i'll move out...he told me "there's no rush" but again "me being me" said ...i'll be out as quick as i can ...i usually beg and text repeatedly just like you, but i didnt. So times i regret "what if" but i cant go backwards now (our relationship was 4 years) yours is only for months so ... you said that you have broken up many times in 4 months Um thats not good but you know him a little bit so maybe just txt friendly back and forth for a bit "no bitching,begging" no pressure txting and allow him to absorb this ...give him time to process this "again" without your "normal behavior" and hopefully by doing that you wont sabotage your chances like i did, show him you CAN try and control yourself, let him calm down and go from there