"no one understands me…."

One of her favorite phrases to me ,,,,,

"no one understands me".

She couldn't get along well with anyone her age, only saw herself as "more mature", and had definite qualities of narcissism as well.

Is this common with those who have BPD with comorbid PD's as well?

That's common with anyone who is depressed.

yes I know, but how does it relate to the "grandiose self" and their "feelings of superiority" when they are BPD?

The question is….. do most people with BPD make comments such as this?

nomoreabuse wrote:yes I know, but how does it relate to the "grandiose self" and their "feelings of superiority" when they are BPD?

It doesn't. Those relate more to NPD, which is quite the polar opposite in regards to images of the self, self-worth, etc. When you're BPD, it's common to need the validation of other people to develop an even level amount of self-worth, let alone any kind of feelings of superiority.

nomoreabuse wrote:yes I know, but how does it relate to the "grandiose self" and their "feelings of superiority" when they are BPD?

The question is….. do most people with BPD make comments such as this?

Uhhhh, wrong forum. Even if you were talking about BPD, which you aren't, this isn't the place to bag on your BPD ex.

nomoreabuse wrote:One of her favorite phrases to me ,,,,,

"no one understands me".

She couldn't get along well with anyone her age, only saw herself as "more mature", and had definite qualities of narcissism as well.

Is this common with those who have BPD with comorbid PD's as well?

###$ you

Well, this comment seems very insensitive. I don't think us BPD's have feelings of superiority. On the contrary, I feel like a failure most of the time. I think you're referring to NPD or something else.

Y04MF wrote:Well, this comment seems very insensitive. I don't think us BPD's have feelings of superiority. On the contrary, I feel like a failure most of the time. I think you're referring to NPD or something else.

I feel something akin to superiority, which is probably entitlement more than anything else. But...feeling entitled could easily be mistaken for a superiority complex as feeling entitled to better treatment than those around you is very similar, if not the same thing.

jabberwocky wrote:

Y04MF wrote:Well, this comment seems very insensitive. I don't think us BPD's have feelings of superiority. On the contrary, I feel like a failure most of the time. I think you're referring to NPD or something else.

I feel something akin to superiority, which is probably entitlement more than anything else. But...feeling entitled could easily be mistaken for a superiority complex as feeling entitled to better treatment than those around you is very similar, if not the same thing.

You've said you had ASPD traits, right? That would explain the entitlement. Most pwBPD don't deal with grandiosity/entitlement, though, in fact often the opposite. Unless they have traits elsewhere.

NimplyDinply wrote:

jabberwocky wrote:

Y04MF wrote:Well, this comment seems very insensitive. I don't think us BPD's have feelings of superiority. On the contrary, I feel like a failure most of the time. I think you're referring to NPD or something else.

I feel something akin to superiority, which is probably entitlement more than anything else. But...feeling entitled could easily be mistaken for a superiority complex as feeling entitled to better treatment than those around you is very similar, if not the same thing.

You've said you had ASPD traits, right? That would explain the entitlement. Most pwBPD don't deal with grandiosity/entitlement, though, in fact often the opposite. Unless they have traits elsewhere.

True...I didn't consider the brain soup in this context.