How to remove NPD female friend from my girlfriend

Hey there, I got a thing going on with a good woman I know but she knows her female friend way longer than me and can't see that she is under bad influence by an NPD who takes drugs and fights with any man that comes close to her out of extreme jealousy. Besides her NPD friend got mad everytime I told her that I am not interested in her but her best friend that I love (possible that she has also a PD but was diagnosed with AD Syndrom) however I dont care about many things and I am complete cool but is there an option to cutt off that female friend of hers ? I am not saying I can't be around her cause I hate her or anything but she constantly creates fights with my girlfriend and me and tries to break us up.

I know that all women and especially all humans are easily manipulated and influenced possible that my gf has borderline but I overlook that cause I really don't care about that and it really works like a charm when I see her more like a friend than my girlfriend, but that annoying lady comes around and is saying things like "I am always doing good for others and they dont love me back I hate it, I hate my parents and I hate that she always gets the guys and I dont." Those negative emotions made me feel bad about her but even more rejected me for having anything in common with her at all, so clearly she is hurt but why is she clinging to my girlfriend so badly? When I confronted my girlfriend she said that I shoud shut up and talk good about her female friend because she wants the best for her and isn't jealous or anything, while these words gave me comfort the opposite case was real. I was out with both of them and when I kissed my gf that female pushed us we nearly did fall on the ground and she ran away, when she came back we asked where she went she said "The bathroom".

I know I have to split up if things keep going on like this and I will find someone else too so I am not worried about that. I am only trying to handle these situations in the future better because it won't be the last clingy female friend a potential love of mine will have or even had, because that also happened in the past and resulted in breaking up which hurt me badly.

I know people say empathy and such but when it comes to actually being empathic those "friends" aren't empathic at all and aren't happy for the happiness truly...

Any advice how to avoid these scenarios?

One thing I have learned about relationships

Is you can not cut people out of your significant other's life.
You can not manipulate them into doing it.

They either will, or they will not, based on their own autonomy/morality.

Any expectation that undermines this simple fact will only set you up for disappointment. And, it will be you who has disappointed yourself.

I see so if I am not worth it enough for their autonomy and morality they most certainly don't belong in my life. If I am not worth being a priority. It is like finding time for someone you like. Anyone that says they don't have time, most of the time do lie. If you have someone on priority then you will have time for that person. If that person is not your priority you do stuff like that and fool him/her with replacing him/her with your friends or anyone else.

Thanks for the riddle!

Find her a boyfriend. Double date and $hit, until one sticks. Then she can make him miserable.

You could even make her a posting on craigslist, unbeknownst to her, but don't use her picture. Just rally up the most suitable applicant and invite. Odds are good that you'll hit the gold mine of mental issues, and she'll be stuck with an unstable clinger that won't go away. Amusing if anything.

graveflower wrote:Find her a boyfriend. Double date and $hit, until one sticks. Then she can make him miserable.

You could even make her a posting on craigslist, unbeknownst to her, but don't use her picture. Just rally up the most suitable applicant and invite. Odds are good that you'll hit the gold mine of mental issues, and she'll be stuck with a clinger that won't go away. Amusing if anything.

GF, I await your poetic response to my proposal on the NPD forum.

Breaking Good wrote:I see so if I am not worth it enough for their autonomy and morality they most certainly don't belong in my life. If I am not worth being a priority. It is like finding time for someone you like. Anyone that says they don't have time, most of the time do lie. If you have someone on priority then you will have time for that person. If that person is not your priority you do stuff like that and fool him/her with replacing him/her with your friends or anyone else.

Thanks for the riddle!

You sir, have understood me exactly.

Thank you.

graveflower wrote:Find her a boyfriend. Double date and $hit, until one sticks. Then she can make him miserable.

You could even make her a posting on craigslist, unbeknownst to her, but don't use her picture. Just rally up the most suitable applicant and invite. Odds are good that you'll hit the gold mine of mental issues, and she'll be stuck with an unstable clinger that won't go away. Amusing if anything.

I did that already but without the internet stuff. I invited a friend of mine who I think is ASPD and he was trying to get her into bed real quick etc. Still she kept running away and pushing him and kept coming to me and hugging me while my damn girlfriend was next to me lol. "You are special and I love your character I don't like your friend." ... Well long story short I broke it off with my gf yesterday, since she can't see the obvious and it annoys me. We are in peace cause she also said her friend matters more to her than I do to her. We remain friends somehow but thats all another chapter closed.
That NPD female was talking alot of $#%^ about me my gf said at the end when I mentioned those things to her I mentioned here in this forum. Now she can keep dealing with her since she is addicted to that sort of push pull npd and bpd have, I have one healthy woman also I know and she is really empathic, gonna have a date next week just to talk what the hell just happened and go out eating dinner or something like normal humans do and not party / take drugs/ drink all the time.

Thanks for your advices, very helpful!