How well would you get along with a mirror of yourself?

question is would you recognise yourself
your perseption of yourself is Always subjective
if your mirror is objectively the same will you recognise him/her
if the contect is differend your mirror will be differend

madjoe wrote:question is would you recognise yourself
your perseption of yourself is Always subjective
if your mirror is objectively the same will you recognise him/her
if the contect is differend your mirror will be differend

That is a good question. I think probably the way I imagine myself is very different from the way others perceive me. If I saw myself across a crowded room, I'm not sure I would recognize myself. I might think "That girl looks kind of like me, that's weird." But I wouldn't assume it was me.

Even if I began to talk to her, and since she is me, and would be reacting the same way, she probably wouldn't recognize me either. I wonder how long we would talk before we realized we were the same person. Especially since we would both be very guarded and not talk about personal stuff, nor ask personal questions.

If my female mirror had my same strengths and insight, I think we'd get along famously. We'd both have to quickly learn not to attempt to redefine each other's realities in self-serving ways though (like gaslighting, but less malign). That is something I no longer tolerate from anyone, but am occasionally tempted to do myself.

This is the perfect question in that it strikes at the heart of a Borderline Personality Disordered individual. If you really think hard about what it "was" like OR what it "is" like to be in an active relationship with a "BPD" individual.... It won't take long to figure out that all the very same traits in the disorder itself are the very traits a Borderline hates in his/her own partner. A BPD person houses all the traits they cannot stand in a partner. Deception, Double standards, sneaking around, playing on words, etc. These are the very traits they are paranoid about in a partner. He/she lives out the life of someone they themselves don't want to be with, yet are in total denial that he/she that way. That and/or she/he minimizes or rationalizes the behavior away in their mind, while exaggerating any small behavior the "non"has. At the same time ,a BPD individual will require that anything they've done be swept under the rug,, forgiven,, forgot about and not brought back up, while having a major history of the things they are paranoid about in a partner. It was always this double standard I hated the most.

Wow this is such a good question.

I would never have considered this before. I would not like my other self - I would tell her to get a grip and stop feeling sorry for herself. It would irritate me how impulsive she would be, and how unpredictable her mood can be. I would feel embarrassed at some of the things that she would do that are inappropriate just because shes in one of those moods.

Maybe us both having BPD would make us clash worse, or would I understand her better? I'm not sure. If it was another me, we would both spend half of the time feeling sorry for ourselves, balanced each way with one telling the other to chin up and be grateful and see the positive side to life.

I'm still baffled by that question. Thank you so much for posting it. Real food for thought

Take Care

Jess