Am I borderline?

Hi,
I have Bipolar I (severe) and am wondering if I have as well some symptoms of BPD.
My psychiatrist did not want to talk about this openly because I had a severe relapse last year. So I think he did not want to stress me further with that. But he gave me a hint... and I am wondering what he was talking about?
Last year, I had a personal conflict with a co-worker. I really liked him and perceived that his signs of attention toward me were flirting. But he said he was not interested in me romantically, that he was being just nice. Whatever that was, it is not a question here.. the question is about my behaviour later on. That should have been it. But I kept on writing emails to him and calling him, so that the situation went really overboard and out of control. I was in my relapse then, so often my emails didn't even make sense.
So, one day, my doctor said to me that the guy has a girlfriend, he doesn't want to see me... why do I insist so much? He said, you know some people like violence... this is what you should think about...
I did not understand what he meant then, but I read about BPD later and I am wondering if he was trying to tell me that I might have that as well...
because I know that people with BPD do not tolerate rejection very well and can get agressive about it..
Any thoughts about my situation?
Thanks!!

i try not to label myself.

many folks dont like to handle rejection or other issues for that matter. some children cry vehemently on the last day of school.

if a parent sees the kid being snatched away or pass away before the parent's eyes, even the parent would go out of control whereas some parents may take it differently.

if a wife finds out that her husband is cheating, she'll either go in depression or some other wife may act ignorant that so what if he's having an affair, atleast he's rich, another wife may get back by allowing herself the freedom to fall again in love
everyone is different and the book of ailments is enormous for everyone to have some sort of pd.

trying to fight the challenges helped me more than battling the label.

i used to live in my own world. i used to think of my friends as my guardians and when they said that they're busy, i'd get angry.

guess i used to think too much from them and expect too much. it was unhealthy for me as well.

That's a strange thing for your therapist to say. It does sound like some sort of hint. But not the best way to hint at BPD...? My therapist also hinted to me instead of telling me outright. When I told her about certain things I did, she would say "Borderlines tend to do that...." and she told me she had ideas of an additional diagnosis for me but didn't want to tell me right then. And other hints like that.

With you it does sound like you are engaging in frantic efforts to avoid abandonment. It seems that would have been a better way to hint at it, instead of alluding to violence. Kind of odd. BPDs do engage in violence at times, but its not part of the DSM criteria, unless you include violence against the self. Maybe you should just ask him what he meant.

I hope you get this resolved. Let us know what happens.