Female Hypervigilance-tw-

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tsY9MipXg_o

the more safer the world gets the more danger the women see
how does that relate to bps and overactive selfdefens system

(i'll understand if this is to hard emotionly and intellectually and i don't get anny responses to this i often get that when i try something a little more serious)

My only question is that your link describes our world as 'a credibly safer one' (you said 'what'?!?!?!???????) How do they get that idea?!?!?!?!?????? With the number of registered sex offenders in each state, are you telling me that it is 'safe'? The following table represents the number of registered sex offenders in each state (1996):
Figure 1: Registered Sex Offenders by State
STATE NUMBER STATE NUMBER STATE NUMBER
Alabama 57 Louisiana 1,935 Ohio 210
Alaska 1,326 Maine 55 Oklahoma 1,760
Arizona 8,174 Maryland 8 Oregon 1,966
Arkansas 68 Massachusetts3
0 Pennsylvania 1,000
California 68,100 Michigan 16,000 Rhode Island 273
Colorado 2,021 Minnesota 5,784 South Carolina 1,872
Connecticut 100 Mississippi 600 South Dakota 633
Delaware 328 Missouri 3,000 Tennessee 2,098
Florida 85 Montana 1,739 Texas 17,555
Georgia Not known Nebraska Not known Utah 4,000
Hawaii 425 Nevada Not known Vermont 25
Idaho 1,440 New Hampshire 590 Virginia 3,913
Illinois 6,534 New Jersey 3,523 Washington 9,912
Indiana 8,000 New Mexico 80 West Virginia 250
Iowa 1,400 New York 4,700 Wisconsin 1,400
Kansas 500 North Carolina 738 Wyoming 418
Kentucky 300 North Dakota 498 TOTAL= 185,393
These are the statistics in 1996....if a man will hurt small children, how would he treat other humans?

All that I know is that it is a sick world...

I apologize that I didn't actually watch the video you posted the link for, so I may be missing something.

angelinbluejeans wrote:My only question is that your link describes our world as 'a credibly safer one' (you said 'what'?!?!?!???????) How do they get that idea?!?!?!?!?????? With the number of registered sex offenders in each state, are you telling me that it is 'safe'?

A sex offender is simply a person who has committed a sex crime, not specifically a pedophile, FYI. It includes rapists and even people who are caught having sex in public can get slapped with a sex offender label so it really has nothing to do with people who hurt children. However, you might learn something by taking a stroll over to the sexual paraphilias forum, which is mainly frequented by pedophiles. Most appear to struggle intensely with their sexual urges and do their best not to hurt children. Attraction to children grosses me out and I absolutely do not condone sexual behavior with someone who is unable to consent, but it may give you a bit more compassion. I can only imagine the hell of trying to control those urges.

However, I do agree that there's no proof that the world really is becoming safer. I think people are becoming more and more educated on the ways in which women are often sexually violated, coerced, or taken advantage of. Read the news. Learn about the increase in rapes on college campuses or about the number of high school girls who are humiliated online or stripped naked while passed out drunk and dropped off on their parents' front lawn during the middle of the winter in freezing temperatures. The world is a dangerous place for women, young and old. Almost all of the women I've talked to have been either raped or sexually assaulted. They just don't talk about it. It often takes opening up about my own experiences before they share theirs. Often women will write off these experiences as just guys being dicks. Just last week a friend of mine was sleeping in bed with a guy who wouldn't stop touching her even though she wanted to go to sleep. He wouldn't take no for an answer so she had to leave. These things happen all the time, but they aren't reported and rapists are rarely convicted. Women have to be hypervigilant because we live in a rape culture society. I'm always aware of my surroundings while walking at night because I don't want to be another victim. Also, street harassment is often intended to make women feel weak and vulnerable, so go figure we are cautious of being attacked when walking alone at night.

BPD women are just like other women, although women with BPD are more likely to be victims of rape and sexual assault. Therefore it's understandable that we are more aware of possible risks and violence.

so annyone like the new justin beeber?

AmorousDestruction wrote:I apologize that I didn't actually watch the video you posted the link for, so I may be missing something.

Good decision. Watching it would be 25 mins of your life you will never get back. I didn't watch (although it's actually just listening) the whole thing either because after 5-6 minutes you can get the gist of it. Complete misogynistic BS. Makes me think the only reason this has been posted here is to get a rise out of the females on here who would hate this kind of stuff. Just to stir people up.

Basically in what I heard he suggests that because we no longer live in an environment (e.g. the caveman) where females could be attacked by a wild animal, suffer rape and injury etc, we should no longer feel in great danger in society, so therefore are just being "hypervigilant" based on nothing (perhaps just because of feminist driven "man hating"????). I fail to see how in today's society we are no longer at risk of rape and injury, but oh well, I guess that can be glossed over.

Then he talks briefly about the 10 hours walking in NY video (woman receiving endless cat calls, although I'm sure you've heard of it) or as he calls it the "blah, blah, blah BS video". He says it was unfortunate that "even the most harmless of statements or gestures (the cat calling) can be interpreted by women as hostile." Then says that if it had been Brad Pitt doing the cat calling, he is sure that women wouldn't have cared. At that point there is no need to keep listening to another 20 minutes of this rubbish because as intellectual as the narrator thinks he is, he has totally missed the point.

OP, this stuff is not intellectual, it's just nonsense. Do you really think that this is just female hypervigilance? This has nothing to do with BPD or overactive self-defence systems. Women aren't at risk safety wise from cat calling, but can't you think for a second that maybe women are entitled to walk the streets without being harassed (and I'll say harassed because at one point in the 10 hours video a guy walks beside her for some time trying to get her interested)?

TW

Rape and injury are still an issue. While it's not "cave bears and tribe fighting" there is still danger to be mindful of in a modern society. I could reel off statistics of domestic violence from males towards females, rapes, assaults etc etc. Hey, I've been indecently assaulted. Some men might think it's harmless, but if I'm just walking down the street, I shouldn't have to see some random with his penis out who then proceeds to masturbate. Thankfully (can't believe I need to say that) that is all that he did. So, yes there is still danger.

This was in the news here just yesterday in Melbourne where I live. As this article shows, there are plenty of idiots around. Maybe read a little less of the MRA stuff.

http://www.dailylife.com.au/news-and-views/news-features/there-is-a-changeorg-petition-to-ban-pick-up-artist-julien-blancs-melbourne-seminar-20141104-11ghfn.html

i apologies
i sould not have used that link
didn't know there were feminists / sjw's here

what's bad about pickup artists
they just want to seduce

i think it's facinating mra"s feminists sjw pickupartists
it's all battle of the sexes in a new dress
i don't belong to annything (no empathy)
i just want ot know how humans function what why and how
turns out it's actualy quite simple

I've been date raped (drugged and passed out) and also attempted forcible rape, a guy forcibly sexually assaulted me, tried to forcibly tear off my clothes, push me into a closet, etc. I know if its happened to me, its happened to many others. I chose not to report because I did not want to deal with police officers and my reputation getting smeared, etc. The legal system does not protect victims. Its a very slut shaming, victim blaming society.

I've been getting triggered on other sites by people posting about the recent viral video of the woman in New York and saying she should enjoy the compliments and stop making big issues over small things, and been shocked with the number of men and even some women agreeing with that. I'm losing hope. Our culture glorifies rape and sexual assault and violence against women. Women can speak up about it but nobody listens, just insults them for being histrionic or making up problems, etc. Its sickening.

I was also sexually molested from the age of 3. When I tried to tell, no one believed me or listened or tried to protect me. Sickening, sickening dysfunctional society we live in.

AmorousDestruction wrote:I apologize that I didn't actually watch the video you posted the link for, so I may be missing something.

angelinbluejeans wrote:My only question is that your link describes our world as 'a credibly safer one' (you said 'what'?!?!?!???????) How do they get that idea?!?!?!?!?????? With the number of registered sex offenders in each state, are you telling me that it is 'safe'?

A sex offender is simply a person who has committed a sex crime, not specifically a pedophile, FYI. It includes rapists and even people who are caught having sex in public can get slapped with a sex offender label so it really has nothing to do with people who hurt children. However, you might learn something by taking a stroll over to the sexual paraphilias forum, which is mainly frequented by pedophiles. Most appear to struggle intensely with their sexual urges and do their best not to hurt children. Attraction to children grosses me out and I absolutely do not condone sexual behavior with someone who is unable to consent, but it may give you a bit more compassion.....

Oh no, my dear...I will never feel compassion for such individuals (without their total and complete remorse)...

madjoe wrote:didn't know there were feminists / sjw's here

Comments like this are everything that is wrong. Instead of actually reading and responding to the points people have made here, you just sweep it away under "raging feminist" or "sjw". I'm not either of those things (although of course believe in equality. Who wouldn't?). But in doing so you just dismiss the facts.

madjoe wrote:so annyone like the new justin beeber?

Same with this S***. I F******g hate Justin Bieber. You think that is like "chick talk" or something? Clearly you are just doing all this to stir women up. It's not about understanding how humans function. I've learnt a little bit about how some men function though and have to say it's kind of sad.