Ex reactivated her social-media-account *TW*

Jeff Spicoli wrote:Oh, I can relate. My ex (we were married for one entire year, lolz) walked out on me a while back, never to return. No real reason given. She probably tired of me after taking so much that I had nothing left to give. Anyhow, I digress.

We all know "no contact, no contact, no contact." And for many this is easy.

Perhaps for us it isn't so easy, since we don't "get over things" quite so easily.

You see, many 'normal' people get over things rather quickly and move on. This is easy for them. They usually have a strong support system in place... Friends, family, and they will eventually meet someone else and move on. We become nothing but a distant memory to them.

That's true. I don't really have a strong system in place either. I rely on the "power within myself" to deal with this properly. I also feel quite empty and don't have much interests right now. So I lack "narcissistic supply" and that's when I start obsessing about her..I made the big mistake of letting her define me and the main thing I am working on right now is finding myself and improving the relationship I have with myself (learning to "love" myself).

Jeff Spicoli wrote:Sad but true, but this is life for us. Myself, I live in virtual isolation. No friends, no family, no support system in place. So, for us to move on is very difficult. Some say that we will never truly move on until we meet someone else. This could be true. If I ever do meet someone again (not holding my breath), I'll report back my findings to validate this!

I can relate to this. I live in isolation aswell. I have a few friends, but they're not close. I think I will move on at some point. I will find ways. I've already made progress and things have gotten easier over the past couple of weeks. I made a list of do's and dont's, did some writing on this etc. So that's been very helpful.

In terms of meeting somebody else: I am also a little hopeless in that regard, but I don't want to give up on that. I would've never expected her to come along, so who knows when I will find somebody else. I hope it'll happen sooner than I expect it. It's important to make a step forward and be open for other people. I am working towards that goal.