Healthy friendships

I have this uncanny ability to make friends very easily, but I seem to have an impossible time keeping them.

What I find so messed up is that it takes someone leaving me for me to learn that a behavior is too much to deal with.

I've pushed a lot of friends away because I have been excessively emotional and emotionally needy. It's draining.

I've done therapy. I've done DBT-esque stuff, for years. I don't know. It must not be working, or am I immune to being helped?

I don't want to be toxic anymore. I know I can be super self absorbed and a bit of a drama queen, but otherwise a pretty fun, generous and supportive friend.

Does anyone have any rules on how they've maintained their friendships with NONS? Are there any NONs who don't go running for the hills 6-18 months later? What has helped you most?

I can keep friendships just fine. What helped me was understand everyone is different than i am and dont assume, judge, talk behind people's back, or be overly needy. So i try to accept everyone for who they are and know they have their own personality, desires, needs. Then, just see if i can adjust to that and they to me. If it works, it means we are friendship compatible. If not, oh well...

I try not to overwhelm one single person with constant contact. I mix it up...for example, if i need emotional support, i will go to a friend who is available and willing to provide that. I test the waters first. And, i try to communicate my feelings clearly and in a diplomatic manner.

I have a hard time being friend with more than one person at a time. It take a lot of work. just being in a relationship with someone takes alot of work and i just dont have much more for others. I need structure and stability in my life and to many people create chaos in m mind