Current age and infidelity risk rating

I hear a lot about BPD burning itself out with age and calming down as people get older. I am wondering how everyone with BPD here would rate their risk level as it pertains to cheating in a relationship at present. Express it as "age 32/risk 5"..or "32/5" would work. Risk is on a scale of 0 to 10 where zero is no possibility of cheating and ten is actively cheating in current relationship or would be cheating if you were in a relationship no matter what. This includes both sexual and emotional affairs It might be helpful information.

I have never cheated. Never will.

30/x

Age 23/Risk x

Because I'm not a liar and I never intentionally hurt people. My illness has nothing to do with my morality, integrity, or conscience.

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I've rarely wished this on anyone, but I think you deserve to be cheated on. And I hope there's a video of it that he/she shows you so you have to watch. Cheers!

It was intended to look at how impulsivity declines as well as validation-seeking might decline with age. It was a straightforward question with several other topics dedicated to it. Not sure why I would have to suck over this pursuit of information.

I explained it quite clearly.

I'm not a slave to my disorder. I don't lose my ability to be a faithful partner because I have issues with impulsivity and need validation. I also can find ways to do that and not hurt another person.

Topics dedicated to whether BPD symptoms decline with age? Yeah. And it's kind of all speculation and depends on the person.

But you didn't ask about symptoms. You asked about cheating and being unfaithful. Lying and breaking trust. These are moral failings in my book. Associating BPD with the idea of being unfaithful is pretty damn insensitive if not straight up stigmatizing.

Good luck on your "pursuit of information". I don't think polls on internet forums count as scientifically valid. How about you actually look up the literature on it instead of asking me how much of a cheater I want to be?

Age 29/ Risk x


I so rarely enter committed relationships that I don't have the opportunity to cheat. It's all flings for me. Once I'm in a relationship, I tend to be a huge emotional cheater, relying on other men for attention and comfort when I am dissatisfied with how the relationship is going. I have little respect for men so I will cheat if I desire, but have enough respect that I don't enter a relationship because I know it won't work out and will save everyone the headache.

49yo and x chance of me cheating on anyone.

I'm usually the kind of person when in a relationship with someone, I don't even notice others.

But I've cheated in one relationship and it's unspokenly becoming an "open relationship".
I'm not enjoying the situation. But, strangely enough, there's still trust and respect remaining, although I don't know where they could be based of. Possibly trust for the other person being there, no matter what. Until it's all resolved and thoroughly discussed, responsibilities shared.
One way or the other.

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I'm locking this thread. First, ages and rakings out of 10? It sounds a little too much like a study. Shockley, if you want to do any studies, please read this thread first: surveys-studies/topic44450.html

Secondly, AmorousDestruction, watch it. Shockley never said anything about a history of cheating; it was merely a question. We always ask others to not read into things; I'm asking you to do show the same respect.