Pushing Your Buttons !!!!!!!

I will never understand why people who know your BPD, insist on pushing your buttons!!!! Even when you tell them what will happen if they persist, but persist, persist....they do... Even your loved one's..I was pleading with my other half the other day, begging him to leave me alone, or suffer the consequences....DID HE??????NO!!! Did i lose it ??? YES!!! & Can someone please tell me, how it all becomes your fault...It's the BPD......NEVER HIS FAULT....I blow things out of proportion because of the BPD he say's....Shall i ring the doctor, he say's.....Sometimes i just want him to disappear!!!!!!!!

if your lover is unhealthy for you, be your own best friend and protect yourself from him. you arent avoiding or being rude to him, but think of it as you're protecting yourself.

people who purposefully trigger us have to be told to back off. if he says its your bpd, throw a frying pan at him and say, 'its the bpd.' that should teach him how to behave.

bpd or not bpd, every human has a right to live safely

write him a letter or email explaining him what triggers you and what bothers you. and its not something bad. if you call a minority group by a racially offensive term, they'll bash you

we all have triggers, even your better half would have issues...like dominating boss, nagging mother or other issues...use that metaphor for him.

people who purposefully trigger us have to be told to back off. if he says its your bpd, throw a frying pan at him and say, 'its the bpd.' that should teach him how to behave.



Lol now this i like, maybe i will try it next time....

My ex was the same way. She knew what triggered me , yet at times she would just push , push ans push. And yes its my fault i get angery and i scare you. And believe me i say i hate and scare myself more than you.
You dont poke someones broken arm and make it worse , then say its your fault because your arms broke.
People who know you, know better, and should never aggravate someones condtion. Thtas why it worse when someone you know pushes you because we have expectations that they care enough not treat us like were damaged goods.
I take medications for my moods and behaviors. Whats their reason for being a--holes. Oh their normal thats it . its ok.
Im glad their others who think its wrong when people knowing push us.

.Sometimes i just want him to disappear!

Why don't you walk away when he is getting on your nerves? Hmmmm?


Solves the problem rather nicely doesn't it?

I can tell you , that dealing with my exH...that was the best solution. He could rage at the walls or blow himself up. Not my problem.

[quote][/quote]Why don't you walk away when he is getting on your nerves? Hmmmm?

I try, but he just follows me where ever i go, which makes me worse....He can't take a hint.....

What's worse is when someone flat-out abuses you. Lies to and manipulates you into trusting them by exploiting your vulnerabilities to the fullest in the sneakiest and most precise of ways, and then betrays you in all the ways they swore they never would.

"Hey. I want to trust you. That would make me vulnerable in ABC way. Don't hurt me by doing XYZ."

"Okay. I promise I won't do XYZ. You can trust me." *Does XYZ. In fact, never planned on not doing XYZ.*

Why didn't you just tell me not to f*cking trust you?

Why the bullsh*t?

The bullsh*t is so unnecessary.

I hear you. Dealing with that currently.

He knows I'm sensitive and I reacted a little bit to him saying he doesn't know if he'll be free and will let me know when he has time to talk to me (he's said this for 2 days now and we haven't really spoken in 4).

I was short with him and kind of mopey so he said "simmer down, drama queen" and then later he told me to "chill out". I responded with "yeah" because I didn't want to get into it and then he responded by sending me a video of him making pouty faces. He thinks he's jokingly teasing me, but it's annoying as $hit. Maybe they think they're just affectionately teasing?

He knows being ignored or not getting attention is a trigger for me and I've been very good at leaving him alone. But he insists on teasing me about wanting to talk to him and making me feel worse about it and pushing my buttons!

While I want to tell him to go f*ck himself, I realize that will make things much worse and I don't want to give him the satisfaction anyway. So I'm giving him a dose of his own medicine and not responding. I never ignore to his texts but I won't respond to that $hit.

Sorry you don't have the option of just not answering. I would lock myself in a room or take the car. Throwing $hit or acting angry never helps.

I used to push my gf's buttons, gently. Then I told her she looked cute when she was angry. That really drove her up the wall. In retrospect, it wasn't the nicest thing to do.

how wierd is it that no one can push my buttens (and that's why ppl are boring to me)
what's it like being human?