Cats & Tears.

This may come off as a little nuts but i feel i care more about my cats than my family. I will cry and become upset about my animals more than my family and i just feel that depression creeping up on me slowly day by day hoping that maybe i can get back onto some medication or someone will believe me and help me.

As reading that some AsPD people come on here, feed off my pain, go for it. I do it too, take pleasure in knowing that i'm hurt and suffering like everyone else.

But the pain point is, i'm leaving early July to travel Europe and i'm a tad worried that my mother's boyfriend will not feed my cats. I started bawling my eyes out less than thirty minutes ago because he brought the wrong cat food. Should i cancel my trip? My mother will not believe me, she won't tell him to go stay at a motel or a friends during those three weeks, she never stands up for me, resulting in myself calling the police once because he was verbally attacking me and emotionally. This is a merry go round.
I'd really like some advice on how i can relax or explain how i just want things my way with the normal cat food, not the opposite which he brought to piss me off, when to feed them and change my kittens litter box. All he does is sit with his laptop, drink himself into intoxication, smoke and has drugs in the house.
Help?

I feel exactly the same about animals...its honestly becoming a problem. I care more about them than about humans, too. I totally understand how it feels!

Is there any way you could make a list with precise instructions for your mom's bf? And, if he has a history of not being the nicest person i would think your feelings are totally valid. Maybe she could also help in feeding the cats? Cats are pretty independent creatures as you probably know (i have some myself) and im sure they will be fine during the 3 weeks - its not such a long time.

Even if he mistakes the food brand, what's important is that they get fed. If he is really lazy, you could ask him to put a certain amount of food in the cat's plate so they will have for longer throughout the day. This is not recommended, but i did it in emergency situations. My cats even refuse to eat when they are not with me
I dont think you should cancel your trip because of it. It will be ok

Is liking cats and talking about them a lot really a symptom of BPD? Someone on another forum implied it was, but I'm not sure if she was trolling or not.

can't you take your cat with you to europe?

I can totally relate to your anxiety about leaving them with someone you don't trust. Can your mom be in charge of their care, instead of the boyfriend? If not, could you board them at a kennel during your trip? Then you know they'd be loved and cared for. I know that would add several hundred dollars to your trip cost, but your peace-of-mind may be worth it. I think I would try to board them if they were mine and I had the funds.

Hi there. I may have a stigma of posting in some other forum, but i don't have that diagnose.
I can feel your pain about your cats. People don't know that cats are quite sensitive about their environment, like impure said. Unlike dogs, they dont like changes. HOWEVER, if you can leave them with somebody you feel more trust towards, you better do so. like a friend or even a neighbor. Cats would bee too stressed during an overseas trip to eat. you risk them not eating for at least 2 days. well, you may risk this with the friend or pet hotel as well, sadly. but the airplane and many strangers handling them during the trip [plus quarantine time] can cause them serious health issues. Further more, while in europe you cant be sure they will not try to escape. If they escape from the friend's house they still have chances of reaching your home, but poor things won't know how to swim across the ocean.

unless your cats are allergic, or simply refuse to eat certain foods, they will do fine on any cat food. don't cancel the trip, because i'm sure you need and deserve it.

on a side-note, i do not think you over-react when thinking about their well-being. i'm a cat person too, but i ended up with a dog. i do worry about her like i would for a baby, so i can relate to your pain. [im thinking about the same things now that i want to plan a vacation for me without my dog, as i dont know many hotels to accept pets in this european country >.> ]