How am I supposed to deal with this?

Cheebs wrote:ok do not call her a million times, do not message her over and over on facebook or via text. now is the time to brainstorm. and by that i don't mean start cycling those moods and emotions. i know what it's like when you start to panic and you feel it welling up inside you and you can FEEL your blood pumping in your temples. but this is where bpd's have issues. and that issue is letting go. she is not behaving appropriately for a relationship no matter the distance. she's doing things that are suspicious and saying things that are suspicious. you are not happy with the situation and she's already warned you that she cannot be faithful.

this is where you have to make a choice. you can decide to let this affect you and go off the deep end into a hole and let the emotions wash over you.

OR

you can let her go. and let someone who deserves your love and compassion and commitment come in and take her place. they can't be with you as long as she's in the way. remember that.

i know this is easier said than done, but i wanted you to at least have this to hold on to when it gets really hard. ::hugs::

be strong. call a friend, let it all out. but don't show her how this is affecting you. that could ruin anything that might come later when she's all grown up and out of this phase of her life. who knows, maybe you just aren't meant to be together right now. maybe in the future it would work out better. but if you burn this bridge now with a breakdown that will never be a possibility.