Am I destined to be a pathetic loser?

Hello, everyone. I recently started a new job, my first job. I thought everything was going well until I started noticing this girl (a colleague). I don't remember what opinion I had of her in the first week, but by the second week I was already obsessed with her. I mean she's exactly like me and has the same interests and is beautiful and so on. The thing is - I haven't even talked to her, also she is about 8 years older than me, she would probably think I'm a kid or something. I'm also virgin, while she can't possibly be at this age and being this good looking. I feel like I have nothing to offer her, like I'm powerless and I have no chance with her. I'm also obsessing about the guy she always talks to and rides the bus with. I think about how maybe they're having sex and other unpleasant things like this and I feel like I'm suffocating and this horrible miserable feeling in my chest and chills up my spine. I don't want to quit my job, but I can't handle this situation either. I really hate myself, how can this possibly happen? This is like some bad movie. How do I shut it off? I keep falling for girls that would never like me, I always feel inferior, I always lose. It's like a curse.

nostalgic,

First, congratulations on your job! I hope it is going well. I'm sorry nobody has responded to you, and I hope your obession is abating. You do have to realize that you are stepping into a new situation, one that is probably routine by now to the woman you are interested in. So she likely already has her circle, maybe a bf or s-o; she may or may not be available for anything more than a collegial rapport with you.

But that hardly makes you a pathetic loser. You should be careful about getting involved with women in your workplace. I've had a bite out of that apple, and it has lead to some disquieting situations. You probably do need to circulate a bit more, learn how to deal with the distaff side. Not sure how old you are, but probably discovering something of what relationships involve is something you should make a priority in your life. Try joining some social activities that correspond with your interests. Hope this helps, and I hope you'll let us know how this situation unfolds for you.