Last Resort Before Suicide

I'm attracted to people way out of my league and they keep dumping me. Please help! I'm lonely and alone.

I have zero friends, no lover and my family moved from Maryland (where I am) to Arizona.

I have no one. I've gone on meetup.com to meet new friends but no one seems interested in exchanging numbers and actually being friends.

I've been on christianmingle.com and match.com but I guess I never knew how ugly I am. The only people that want to date me are people I'm not attracted to. I am only attracted to people who are way out of my league. I've tried to fix this but it's hard to convince myself to be sexually attracted to people that I'm not.

So, I gave myself until this Friday before I just put myself out of my misery.

Does anyone here know how to fight this?

There are some great people out there who would love to meet someone like you. Give them a chance to find you.

I feel you. I've lost my connection to those who used to be my friends, and can't really relate to my family anymore. Also, I can relate to your suicidal feelings. I'm currently awaiting starting in a therapy group, which will start in a month or so. Having something like that to look forward to sure helps me keep going. Also, I started writing down whenever I feel good, what makes me feel good. Then when I'm down and out, or even feel suicidal, I have something to help convince myself that I am capable of feeling good.
If you really feel suicidal, it can never hurt to reach out for medical help. Things can get better.

First off, please, if you're in danger go to a hospital and get help. Nothing is worth harming yourself over, no matter how much that doesn't seem true.

Be happy with yourself. I'm sure that you aren't ugly, these just weren't the people for you. You will find the right person, but first you need to make sure that you're taking care of yourself too.

Hi

You have been given some really good advice but I would echo that if you think you are in danger of harming yourself you need to seek urgent medical attention. In terms of meeting ppl and making friends or partners it can be tough but it is possible. Given your thoughts about harming yourself I suspect you are not too keen on yourself and this means it is more difficult for others to like you - if you work on liking and loving you I think you will see that you attract good friends- I know this can be difficult to do in practice but it is worth looking into.

keep safe

Hugs

Cracked

You say, that you aren't sexually attracted to the people who date you. Well you needn't have sex with them, just hang out or be friends with them.

I seem to be in the same boat. Dating has NEVER worked for me. I'm 90% asexual but don't like being single and alone. I'm also not interested in people who aren't intellectually stimulating. Lately I'm either bored, restless, and angry or achingly sad. I get the feeling one positive development could completely change things around, but my patience is wearing thinner and thinner every day. Unlike most people on this forum I don't do anything self-destructive. Sometimes I yell and punch things, but mostly I just suck it up. This just leads me deeper and deeper into depression.

Sorry, but I also hate the "you have to love yourself" advice. I don't know if that's the root issue for me. Its true I get down on myself, but at the bottom of it all is excruciating frustration. Really, I'm just empty, sad, restless as hell, and just plain tired of feeling ignored by everyone. I have nothing to grasp on to. Honestly, life feels like a prison sentence.

Hi Omega,
As the others said, don't hurt yourself and seek help if you are seriously suicidal.

I tried online dating on match and plentyoffish for a long time before I found my current girlfriend. It was very frustrating - people often didn't reply to messages and the few I did meet in real life usually turned out to be duds.

But then I started going to meetup and it was much better. I've made several good friends. Most people are not friend material, but a few are genuine and they stay in touch outside of meetups.

However, I also did a lot of therapy and I think you might need to consider doing that as well as going to social groups. It really is so much easier if you're emotionally stable and happy when you meet new people... that's obvious, but it bears saying.

If you in southern Maryland (i.e. near to Washington DC), private message me and I'll share with you some of the better meetup groups in the area that I've been to.

As for the attraction thing, you obviously want someone reasonably attractive. But the cliche about finding someone who is attractive on the inside really is true. It helped me to focus more on getting to know people, and then they became more than just their appearance.

Don't even consider attempting suicide at all. It's not worth it. Feelings do change in time. You have to ride it out. As the other posters have suggested meetups with others struggling might help you a lot. I've been down the attempted suicide route before and I very much regret it. It's never worth it. No matter what. You must keep going. In time you'll realise this. Life is worth fighting for.