Splitting Advice

I've split my roommate black after I feel like she's very much disrespected me. She used to be one of my best friends. It's really a shame. How can I deal with these feelings of anger but still make it a healthy living situation for both myself and her?

What makes you feel like she disrespected you?

I can tell you something that used to happen between my wife and I.
I would say something to her. Something completely innocent. She would misinterpret. She would get irked and snap back at me. I would get defensive and return fire. Before you know it, BOTH of us were spiraling out of control.

It could take three days to a week for things to settle down between us.

What I am suggesting is that, maybe your relationship with your roommate is spiraling.

Maybe you feel like you are splitting, not necessarily because of your condition, but more out of frustration with the way you feel like your relationship is going.

Food for thought...

I have this same shared problem. My girlfriend has AvPD and is really needy and misinterprets everything! We've been together for 3 years, I'm 19 and she almost is too and we live together and im close, I geuss with her family. But honestly I dont like any of them at all. Her dad left her and I think might have Avoidant and her mom is a religious psychopath. She's controlling and unaccepting and greedy and I don't like her at all. Her brother (whole we rented from) kicked us out and made us homeless because his wife and daughter lied to him, saying I screamed at them and was seriously disrespectful when I've always been a very quiet, respectful person. Knowing I'm making someone uncomfortable makes me uncomfortable.

But I can't help feeling black about her. I dont wanna be with her and I've known and repressed it because she WONT LET ME BREAK UP WITH HER! I have no idea how I can possibly get out of this relationship when she breaks me emotionally and forces me into mania until I take her back.

I have no job, my best friend is her cousin who I dont think ill b able tobspeak to him anymore if we break up. I have no job and if we break up I go back to my parents or I'm homeless