Pushing him away?

Hi everyone. I'll keep the background story short.

Basically, there's a kid I've known for like 7 years on and off. We liked eachother but just recently really pursued it. He used to be totally into me, but then recently we had sex for the first time- he said it was the best he's ever had blah blah blah. On New Years Eve, he intro'd me as his girlfriend. Then, a few days later when I asked him about it- he got really weird but said he wanted to be together. Now he barely talks to me and rarely responds to my texts. So I just sent him a text saying "I know you used me and good luck with everything, goodbye".

He honestly is such a good guy- so that's why I'm totally confused. I used to not be that into him, but after sex, I really started to idealize him. My question is tho: Is this me pushing him away? Or do you think he really just used me? (Even tho it took him some years of pursuing me to finally get what he wanted) Any advice?

girlfriend might be a few things. you have known them for seven years. no panic. are you sending them the right message? maybe they will understand you are wanting attention. maybe they will think you are insecure and like that. it is difficult to know, they might take what you said, being the good guy, at face value, and now be thinking, why after seven years, have said goodbye to them.

he said he wants to be together. good guys, are probably going to be less expressive on average. it been seven years so. no panic.

text him back and tell him that you liked being used, and say hello, again? they sound like a good guy, seven years. there is room to play and be fun.

Thank you for your response, gibkid.

He ended up texting me back asking what was wrong and I spilled my guts about having BPD and that he should know about it before he starts to care too much. He ended up saying "Babe, everyone has issues. I know you have a past, and so do I. But, we're supposed to stick together through the good and bad parts." (We had been very close at the time of my suicide attempt and hospitilization when I was 17.

It was the sweetest thing I almost cried hah.