Schema therapy?

I might gain access to affordable schema therapy. DBT is way too expensive in here. I can choose- the traditional psychotherapy, or schema therapy. What do you think? Did any of you try it? What do you go through in therapy? Did it help you to improve yourself and your life? Any details would be of great help.

Thank you.

Everyone has five modes in them. The abandoned kid, the angry kid, the punitive parent, the detached protector and the healthy adult.

Nons are capable of controlling them and selecting the modes. the abandoned kid seeks attention and admiration, so nons seeks love from family, very close friends. the angry kid is angry for not getting love, nons control their anger when they have any argument with a loved one.

with bpds, we seek attention and unconditional love from any one we idealize. when we dont get the attention, it goes to angry kid who does an impulsive act(like calls the perceived parent repeatedly, seek attention by cracking weird jokes).

when the friend advices us to behave, the punitive parent comes it and we hate ourselves for displaying emotion. then we go to mechanical protector where we appear emotionless, not cruel but cold and emotionless. the healthy adult comes when we get notice the swings in previous 4 modes. the healthy adult causes us to come to this forum.

the first step is to identify the times when we had the modes. there would be past incidents when you were in one of the modes,
sought attention from a friend by doing something you now think was silly
hated yourself for displaying emotion, for befriending someone, for smiling at someone
appeared mechanical, mostly at social events, where you dont speak anything and people came upto you and asked, 'is everything ok, why are you so quiet'. look at your pics, you'll be able to spot when your face is blank

when we realize the modes, we try to work with them. the abandoned child seeks attention, so go to someone who will give you attention. like this forum or a friend
the angry child is angry at not given attention, so ask yourself, why must he give me attention, am i his responsibility, why must he give me attention, am i being unreasonable, can i simply call him and have a small chat with him.

the punitive parent hates himself, so i talk to myself and say, 'its ok. it wont be repeated. its ok, you're human and allowed to mistakes. you're human, it's ok. you're allowed.'

the healthy mode is congratuled by eating good foor and coke

go for it! that's awesome! keep us updated if you opt to go for schema! have you read up on it? there's a great book (i kindled it) 'schema therapy - the cbt distinctive features series' by eskhol rafaeli and david p bernstein

go with schema therapy

Check out the book Reinventing Your Life

Can someone who has been through Schema therapy describe it. I hear that its common for NPD as well.

whenlmeetsm wrote:Can someone who has been through Schema therapy describe it. I hear that its common for NPD as well.

I'd like that as well, thank you.

excellent overview of schema-focused therapy by Dr. Young (himself , he has been through it, not as a patient, but still...)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QClqC2lQBgo

Thank you!! Will look at it today!

I hope I won't miss some English from hearing (why there are no English subtitles? In here we have subtitles everywhere). Thanks.