how do you trust yourself

its like these flashbacks and how do you trust yourself. my body betrayed me as a kid. sometimes i feel that this whole abuse thing is just some dream..some weird world i am in.

its like i dont trust myself anymore. i read that bpds lie, lie, lie till they die. so maybe i'm smart enough to do all this..what if my mind is playing tricks on me again. how do you trust yourself

regarding the b/w thinking. if my perception of others changes every half hour or so..or by other triggers then how can i be true to my self perception(which also changes)

who am i..

jaus tail wrote:regarding the b/w thinking. if my perception of others changes every half hour or so..or by other triggers then how can i be true to my self perception(which also changes)

This is a great question. I struggle with this a lot, which is probably one reason why I will get into a relationship thinking that my self perception is one thing, only to find out later on in the relationship that this is not me at all (even though I have no idea who that is anyways). I'm interested to hear other's answers.

i don't trust myself after a few drinks...that's when the $#%^ starts hitting the fan.

My therapist talks to me about: the rationale mind, the wise mind and the emotional mind. Have you heard of that before?

I find that practising thinking in the wise mind helps me think in the wise mind when I am triggered by something or and starting to think B/W.

Here is a link with the minds: http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/mind_states.html
It is pretty short- but clear and to the point.

I'm not perfect at it yet, but with more practice i am getting better!

thanks..i did go through the link and realize the fights between emotional and rational mind. at times the emotional mind takes a decision n the rational mind feels guilty

the rational mind also disapproves the emotional mind of the b/w thinking

n the emotional mind hates the fact that the rational mind is a loner

jaus tail wrote:n the emotional mind hates the fact that the rational mind is a loner

Being alone isn't a bad thing. Look in the mirror- that's a great person!
I know society makes such a big deal about being with someone (and I struggle with this a lot)
But everyone is different- not bad, not better- just different. Some people enjoy being social while others don't. I'm sort of a mix between the two.

I'm glad the link helped you