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Postby lined_in_silver » Mon Aug 05, 2013 2:49 am

Hi everyone. Ive always had trouble with feeling attached to actors in a movie, so that by the end-I can get really upset that its done. Its close to the same feeling as abandonment.
Movies also have triggered my identity issues ..like Ive noticed I act like a character for a few hours to a day after watching it.
Please tell me I'm not alone :(
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Postby Jodi_ice » Mon Aug 05, 2013 5:12 am

You are not alone. I like it with tv shows, films and books, heck even some advert series'! :( it's really hard :(
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Postby Caustic » Mon Aug 05, 2013 5:42 am

I do this. I am pretty embarrassed about it so I often don't think about it when I notice it.
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Postby aliveatnight » Mon Aug 05, 2013 2:14 pm

I'm guilty of this too. It's not as bad anymore, but it can still get me off guard. Also, if it is any comfort to you, when I was younger I would take whoever I was focused on at the time, and in my head be obsessed with the thought of having some type of relationship with them (whether it be as a friend, a romantic relationship, or any other kind of relationship), and I could be obsessed with the thought for months until the next person came along. That's how I coped with being alone then. It's a bit embarrassing for me to admit to doing that, so I hope it provides some comfort in knowing that you aren't alone.
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Postby pontmercy » Mon Aug 05, 2013 8:26 pm

This. I'm embarrassingly obsessed with actors and shows. I let it effect my daily life, some things even become triggers for me. :/ Glad to hear I'm not the only one.
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Postby bcm » Mon Aug 05, 2013 8:52 pm

I've always been like this especially when reading novels. Sometimes I re-read certain them so I can live out the good feelings. It's addictive and my feelings can transfer to television as well.

Right now I'm obsessed with Marilyn Monroe again. I have a wall picture of her, shot glasses, and I spent last weekend watching four of her movies over and over.

And the week before last I was obsessed with Supernatural and even now I keep looking up all things Dean Winchester/Jensen Ackles.
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Postby Caustic » Mon Aug 05, 2013 9:28 pm

I will marry Amilia Pond.
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You mustn`t lose it"
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Postby hazeljane » Mon Aug 05, 2013 10:31 pm

I know exactly how you feel. I feel like it about movies sometimes but its mainly celebrities. There is a certain celeb at the minute who consumes my every waking minute ( I am 30 with a boyfriend). I hate it because I feel so stupid.
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Postby lined_in_silver » Mon Aug 05, 2013 11:19 pm

Thanks friends
I'm glad I'm not alone with this. :?
Its partly an obsession with the actor themselves, but partly the story. As of I get so caught up in the story that I get really down when its over. Season finales are tough for me.
But yes, i have had obsessions with male and female stars before, and hang onto them until the next one intrigues me.

Basically, I hate when things end.

And if anyone is still reading, I wonder if any of you experience this in social situations : say you're at a party or gathering, you feel comfortable with who so there after warming up for an hour or so, and then if a new person comes, you get upset or threatened .then you decide after a little while that young are OK with them, and then so on. I have issues with other women-I like to be the centre of attention, or know that someone in the room is interested in me. So god forbid a good looking girl joins the party...I feel angry. Its so childish.
I've noticed myself being a chameleon and changing into who I think a person will like. Sort of like mirroring. Part of my identity problem. I can be 20 different versions of myself. Not so extreme as to have different personalities though. Thankfully, it goes unnoticed

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Postby MessyMackenzie » Mon Aug 05, 2013 11:33 pm

i used to have this really bad when i was younger. I was really into anime and i would cry a billion tears an episode no joke i'd be obsessed with the shows and change my life philosophy accordingly (the same with regular series). I also went into this depression when i finished Twilight (i was a very lonely 14 please excuse me for my literature lol) because i felt abandoned.

but now, knowing it's too painful i need to put up a wall between me and the stories. Now after a couple of years it's hard to break down.. :(
I said, "Honey, I don't feel so good, don't feel justified
Come on put a little love here in my void,'
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