Need to Rant

by **emily.smith** » Sat Jul 06, 2013 4:30 pm

I'm in a really bad place at the moment. I have been in this place several times in my life and this is the first time I have tried to reach out for help. But no one is taking me seriously! The main reason I have never asked for help before is because I'm worried people will think I'm attention seeking but I'm in such a desperate place right now, I don't care if people think that as I know if I don't get help soon, I'll do something silly. I have tried my GP, mental health team, crisis team and my partner, who said 'you won't get any help at 5pm on a Saturday' and 'do what you want, I'm out with a friend'. I have tried contacting people (I won't say friends as I don't have any, I'm too troubled to make friends).

So besides drinking, taking drugs, of harming, I don't know what else to do. Unless I take the crisis team's advice... 'Watch tv'... Wtf???!!!!

The crisis team probably means well - they probably think watching TV will distract you and empty your head. But of course, if you're really freaking out, that simply doesn't cut it.

I don't have much to say to you as I don't know the specifics of your situation, but I hope that you keep safe and feel free to come here and talk if you feel the need. I also hope everything works out and send you a big hug from someone who knows what it's like.

by **wineaux** » Sat Jul 06, 2013 6:37 pm

emily.smith wrote:I'm in a really bad place at the moment. I have been in this place several times in my life and this is the first time I have tried to reach out for help. But no one is taking me seriously! The main reason I have never asked for help before is because I'm worried people will think I'm attention seeking but I'm in such a desperate place right now, I don't care if people think that as I know if I don't get help soon, I'll do something silly. I have tried my GP, mental health team, crisis team and my partner, who said 'you won't get any help at 5pm on a Saturday' and 'do what you want, I'm out with a friend'. I have tried contacting people (I won't say friends as I don't have any, I'm too troubled to make friends).

So besides drinking, taking drugs, of harming, I don't know what else to do. Unless I take the crisis team's advice... 'Watch tv'... Wtf???!!!!

emily -

rant away! that's what we're here for!! i PM'd you some resources that you might want to look at/reach out to. i'm sorry your friends are being invalidating in your time of need, hopefully there's someone out there you can contact to help you through this. keep us updated and please, be safe.

(((hugs)))

wineaux

by **JustinB113** » Sat Jul 06, 2013 10:43 pm

Hey Emily,

Dear God what were they thinking :-(

You wrote this a little while ago, are you OK now and got through it alright?

by **aliveatnight** » Sat Jul 06, 2013 11:46 pm

This would be very invalidating and I'm sorry you're struggling. How are you doing now?
Feel free to rant, we're here if you need to talk.

Stay safe.

by **wineaux** » Sun Jul 07, 2013 3:12 am

emily? poke, poke...just checking in on you hon. hope you're safe.

by **emily.smith** » Fri Jul 12, 2013 9:09 am

Thank you all for your replies and sorry I didn't reply sooner. Is there a way of being notified that someone has replied to a post rather than keep going back and checking?

I got through the weekend, just. But since then I have had similar moments and I'm sure I'll have many more. I am fed up of just hanging on in here, tired of just surviving

by **thejan** » Fri Jul 12, 2013 5:44 pm

Can you express your feelings in a creative way? Ranting is also ok! I often think distraction is not really that healthy, i think it is more healthy to express feelings. At least for me it works.

by **centerpath** » Fri Jul 12, 2013 5:59 pm

You should be getting email's that tell you someone has replied to a post. You might need to go to user settings under "notifications" to click the box.

I think "attention seeking" behavior is a healthy thing, and think it's unfortunate that it's expressed in judgmental terms so often. The need for attention is a valid human need, and one that should be honored. Only the person seeking attention is in a position to judge the boundaries.

The way many of us were raised we were taught to feel shame for desiring validation, and many of us adapted unhealthy patterns of attention seeking because healthy patterns didn't function.

So seek away! I think most of us are familiar with these storms, and have great empathy for what you're experiencing. Please try to write in more detail about what you're feeling.

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