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My husband was recently DX with BPD. Alot of things have happened. I told him I would help him thru & meant it with all my heart. I just found out that he has been having an affair and admits that it was because he is so low right now that he is self medicating. We have been thru difficult times and I still believe that we can repair what is broken, adjust what we thought the future was going to be and keep the marriage intact. He says he cares deeply but feels so hopeless and empty that it is easier to throw it away and deal with that pain than to try to fix us. I understand why he thinks that. He is extremely confused right now. It hurts me to the core that he is floating around in so much pain with no one who understands. No one to be able to say, "dude, I have been where you are. I know why you are doing the things you are now".

Do you think giving his email address to another person who has the awareness and experience with their own BPD would help him or is it a recipe for disaster?

You could ask him to post here?