I HATE my neighbour, and the way I handle things

Hi everyone,

I have lived where I'm currently living for almost a year, and this one neighbour who runs this warehouse type things next door has made it a misery. They have no respect. He just chucks all his rubbish out the door onto my porch when he's done eating. He chucks all his #######1 onto my porch, and they block my drains. He leaves the backdoor to the warehouse which is literally right next to my house open all the time, which makes it really noisy. He's just allround inconsiderate. Now, I spoke to the landlord about this, and they spoke to him, but he didn't change. I've spoken to him about this, and put a polite note on his door, but he couldn't care less.

The thing is I'm annoyed at myself, because I hated this situation from the getgo, and yet I still put up with it?! It's had a really negative effect on my because I'm very sensitive to my environment. I don't get why I put up with a situation for almost a year when it clearly was wrong in the first place. I just am so scared to actually be assertive when people are being unreasonable. I just tend to hope things will magically get better. I hate risking being disliked. I also tend to think it may just be me being crazy, even when it is the other person. What can I learn from this? I never tend to see the lesson to be learned in anything.

In your position I would move, or beat the neighbor after a few weeks. I'm very sensitive to my environment too
You may try to find out win-win arrangements for you and your neighbor, like suggesting less #######5 and more efficient ways to dispose of the garbage. I don't really know, but I can relate with your fears, and I just wanted to support you

You seem very hard on yourself. I think your response to this selfish, inconsiderate neighbour has been exactly what a responsible person in your shoes should have done. Don't hate yourself because of his bad conduct. A bad neighbour is a nightmare for anyone. My sister and her husband sold their house and moved to another suburb to get away from the idiot who moved in next to them. You probably have legal remedies available to you for nuisance, but you have to decide if it's worth the hassle of engaging with this loser. Well done for being the reasonable party

Thanks for responding guys.

Just to clarify- I am definitely moving out, as they're clearly not going to change. Also, I didn't swear; the filter took the British term for cigarette butts, and filtered it. Haha

I am annoyed at myself because I just wish I'd dealt with it sooner, but perhaps the lesson is that if something is not working, I should trust my instincts, and get myself away from the situation.