please help me...

I am very happily engaged. BUT, I am obsessed with trying to make every man I meet, falling in love with me. Example, I was on twitter and this guy was complaining about love, so I replied. The very moment I re tweeted him, I got a raging jealousy because he was talking about being in love with another woman. I have never met him before in my life, yet I need him to fall in love with me. Why?? Why do I feel the need to try and make every man I know, fall in love with me? I never cheat on my man, but I love to flirt and manipulate a man. I have been told that I may have a personality disorder that fits these symptoms.


ALSO: I am 18 years old and have an obsession with wanting to get pregnant. my husband to be and I have tried for 1 year but we haven't succeeded. I get depressed seeing other women pregnant and when I take a negative HPT. Why is this happening? Why am I like this?

Is it possible that the attention makes you feel needed and that you have worth because others are noticing you?
I personally am the complete opposite, I hate ANY attention whatsoever. It triggers me terribly.

Also, with being pregnant. I'm not completely sure what the reasoning is, perhaps a strong maternal instinct or wanting to have the love of a child? Whatever it is, just be careful and make sure that you are fully ready for it.They're a lot of money and time, and you are young. Just don't rush it ok?

hi bugg -

i think what you're experiencing is more of a desperate need to feel wanted/loved/validated more than anything. you're looking for 'supply' when in all reality, others cannot give you what you really need - as what they're able to offer is just surface, or rather shallow. what was your life like growing up?

Hi bugg

Attention feels great, it's very validating and I think it's safe to say that all of us enjoy getting it. It sounds like you may be taking it to an unhealthy extreme though which has me wondering: Would them (the guys) giving you any attention, even a quick one-time message back, fill the desire you have or do you specifically feel like they must love/lust after you? Wanting attention is understandable but if it falls into the later, that sounds more like a histrionic trait. Have you looked into HPD at all?

I once had someone admit to me that they purposely got pregnant just so they would never be alone and so they would always feel needed by someone. Those are pretty unhealthy thoughts not to mention a very unhealthy setting for a baby to be raised in. As wineaux said, please make sure you and your husband are ready for that. It could be that you subconsciously see a child as a "supply" of some sort. Before the baby, you may want to consider digging deeper into the need for having an attention/love supply (beyond your husband and from within) so you can understand where that is coming from and what you can do about it. (Obviously you're asking the question here so you ARE digging )

Good luck.