Disowned by Narcissistic Family

I'm sick of this. Maybe I shouldn't care. The cousin that blocked me on facebook when I tried to add him is a womanizer and an abuser, perhaps I shouldn't care. But I do for some reason.

My mother, who I cut contact with over the way she's treated me, has been going through the family to get to me. She's made her entire side of the family delete and block me. She's for years been making them treat me like less than human, now this. O well....

She's not going to regain power and control over me. I know that's what she wants. She's angry because I'm not giving her money. And I won't. Ever.

you stay strong and keep your boundaries anchored. this behavior that your family is exhibiting is immature and manipulative, all in attempt to gain - just as you said it - power. you don't need that kind if negativity and extra drama to surround you. think of it this way...if these people were just 'friends' and not family, would your reactions be any different? showing them NO reaction will be the ultimate in this situation as they are doing whatever they can to illicit negative behavior from you so they can use it against you. you don't deserve this and I'm sorry you are having to go through it.

hugs,

wineaux

She literally called the cops because I "went missing" because I didn't respond to her. All of a sudden she supposedly cared, and guess where I was missing? At my apartment getting ready to go to a friends house. The police had the balls to tell me to call my parents, they're worried about me. I know, they didn't get the situation. I was easy on them.

She'll try anything. I just wish there was something I can do to put an end to it. Silent treatment is soliciting this out of her. Hopefully eventually she'll give up.

Coming from me my response is a bit strange. So often I am in a place where I simply can not control my actions, it's not possible no matter how hard I try.

For you.. I might suggest to remember only YOU can control your own actions. You can not control the actions of everyone else, including all your family members. What you also can control is how you respond to it all. Good Luck

Boy, I'd pay good money to be left alone by my narcissistic family.

Here's the short reply:

Narcissists feed from your energy. They can feed equally well from love and fawning to rage and tears and despair. They are the psychic dung beetles of the psychic world. (sorry up front to the N's out there).

She will cease to feed when you stop vibrating to her frequency.

Simple test, if a person walked up to you in a restaurant and said something scathing about you, insulted your appearance, or the way you ate, how would you react? If you were deeply triggered and blubbered some combination of indignant and hurt then you're still a ready source of supply to any passing narcissist. If you looked up with a bemused smile and went back to your meal then you're there.

Easier said than done I know.