is there bpd who needs help but dont dare to ask ?

Hi,

I have posted so many messages in different websites and evrybody is telling me to think about me ( what I do) and stop wanting to help my ex to make him realize that there is sth wrong.
But I think it is so egoistic when you know that soemone is bpd but dont do anything to help me to realize.
Is it so bad from me that I care so much for him ?

I am sure that there are a lot of people who would have liked to have somebody like me, soemone who doesnt give them up but on the contrary support them.

Bpd are so alone and now I am almost blamed for wanting to help him.

He is not aware he is and I am trying all what I can do to tell him he will feel much better if he was free of all of this.

Can someone understand me or....?

Cause apparently all the people I talked to said to me that if he didnt want, well I should leave him alone and forget about him but...

Thx.

I'm a little confused by what you wrote. It doesn't make since to me. Could you please clarify it? Start from the beggining and write here what you wrote in other websites?

I could give you an honest oppinnion then.

hi,

I have explained that I separated from my ex boyfriend 2 months ago.I didnt know he was bpd yet otherwise I would have acted differently.
As I am aware now that he is but that he is himself in denial, I'd like to help him to open eyes.
He knows therea re wrong things about him but think its part of his caracter.hed oesnt know anything and doesnt wanna know anything about bpd.

I wanted to help him cause i thought that if he knew that its not his caracter but more a " disease" well he could have an explanation, get answers to his own questions about why he recats that not, why this and why that and also that it could set him free from his emotional reactions.

Evrybody told to stop tthinking about him, that Ishould concetrate on myself and that he is the only 1 who can do sth, not me.

I just thought that he is maybe too proud to ask for help or maybe its so difficult for me to admit he has sth wrong cause its a sign of inferiority.

People told me what if he really wanted help he would have asked.
Thats is true.
If he is so convinced thats its his caaracter he wont do anything to change it.I have read that theya re so used to be in thata situation, they have lived so long like that that they are convinced its almost normal and part of them.My intention was to try to convince him its not true.

He sent me a mail 2 weeks ago, he is very upste still that we are no longer 2gether and theer is 1 sentence that attracted my attention " i find myself being in a world where theer is no way out".

Is it not asking for help ?