Therapists don't like treating borderlines?

Treatment hasn't been doing much for me. Sometimes, it even seems like its making me worse.

Makes sense. I haven't been successful with any therapists thus far due to how difficult I can be. Most of them set me off one way or another so patient to therapist relationships never last.

i remember proving the therapist i'm manipulative
she was not ammused
i can immagine all cluster B's being a pita (pain in the rear) to treat

I can understand why some BPD's may be difficult to treat but I would get fired at my job if I just chose not to do the work thats the hardest. I'm sad for those of you who were refused treatment (wtf) or were put off by their therapists.

As far as I remember, a lot of therapist never wanted to treat me. A lot of them told me that they were not equipped for a case like mine, to go to the appropriate ressources. The shame is that there is only 1 place to treat BPD where i live, and that is the hospital. And there they don't really care what you think, their only concern is to put you on meds and put you back to a functionnal state no matter what. Never worked for me.

I understand people to wanna avoid bpds. and i dont judge. Seems were all pieces of $#%^ anyways.

In my first therapy session, my consultant sent a letter to my GP about my medication and described my current state as "reflective with a touch of apathy". I don't understand what makes some therapists assume BPD patients will just be symptomatic in front of them, either hyperactive or crying. It seems naive to me. I wouldn't dream of being symptomatic in front of someone I don't know very well. It's a pride thing; I'd be embarrassed.

I have read this a lot online whilst doing my research into BPD as a newly diagnosed member of the club, but I wondered how much of this was just the article writer's opinion on how a therapist would feel about someone with BPD. This was until my Aunt who is a Social Worker told me that she knew of hospital staff and therapists being very cynical of people with BPD and having the opinion that they are incurable so it was a waste of time and resources to try and treat them!

I can see how personality disorders could be challenging from a therapists view but if that were me I would prefer the challenge and would only see a refusal of a patient as me being incapable!

But that's just my penny's worth!

JoannaCave wrote:In my first therapy session, my consultant sent a letter to my GP about my medication and described my current state as "reflective with a touch of apathy". I don't understand what makes some therapists assume BPD patients will just be symptomatic in front of them, either hyperactive or crying. It seems naive to me. I wouldn't dream of being symptomatic in front of someone I don't know very well. It's a pride thing; I'd be embarrassed.

This assumption has made people think I've got better selfcontrol than I do, and that I'm more mentally stable than I am. Not to mention, not only pride holds me back, but years of training myself to not look like a wreck in order to try to survive in society.

My past therapist didn't like to treat anyone with a personality disorder. When asked why I was told it is because they don't change.

reflection wrote:My past therapist didn't like to treat anyone with a personality disorder. When asked why I was told it is because they don't change.

That's an unhealthy myth about us. We can't just up and magically change no, but we can work on things and slowly change for the better with time. I've changed. Sure... maybe not in the ways people would've liked and expected, but I'm human. And a human with issues. It's going to be a while but we do change.