The Past (May Trigger)

Just so I can get an idea of how to wrap my mind around how BPD s can move into relationships with
another person so quickly-do BPD's ever really think about or consider the pain they cause their past intimate partners when they move into a new relationship that they escalate to another level as fast as possible? In general are BPD's able to do this because they need a new supply for themselves or because their past partner has finally discovered the 'real' person that the BPD is? Thanks for any and all responses. At the end of the relationship I watched my ex BPD partner actually have what I believe to be psychotic episodes-it was really frightening to see-and I'm a big dude.

ScotisGone74 wrote:do BPD's ever really think about or consider the pain they cause their past intimate partners when they move into a new relationship

Speaking personally; yes, all the time, and for years afterwards every single day.

ScotisGone74 wrote:Just so I can get an idea of how to wrap my mind around how BPD s can move into relationships with another person so quickly

I wish I didn't have first hand knowledge of this, but its extreme loneliness and not wanting to be alone. It can do things to you. Make you get involved with people you shouldn't. Rush into things you'd otherwise regret, and you end up regretting it.

do BPD's ever really think about or consider the pain they cause their past intimate partners when they move into a new relationship that they escalate to another level as fast as possible?

Some have committed suicide they hated themselves so much for it. Me, personally, I do and feel bad and want to make things right and stay friends. I feel bad (gross understatement warning). This is why we need to try to help ourselves before we get into such relationships, as hard as that may be.

In general are BPD's able to do this because they need a new supply for themselves or because their past partner has finally discovered the 'real' person that the BPD is?

Most of us aren't looking for a fresh supply (not sure what that means, I assume thrill), and the real person is usually worn on our sleeves it seems. Unfortunately. Not always though. It usually ends because a mix between our problems and the problems of those rushing in with us colliding. It just falls apart and BOTH are badly hurt by it.

Thanks for any and all responses. At the end of the relationship I watched my ex BPD partner actually have what I believe to be psychotic episodes-it was really frightening to see-and I'm a big dude.

It's not an easy thing to see. Imagine being the person having to live with being that, and then living with the consequences of that. There is no break from it.