I started having sex about 8 or 9 yrs old. At 17 joined the Navy and met a sexy lady at a club who asked me to come home and party with her. I asked about the guy she had been setting with and she answers,"Oh thats my husband, he just likes to watch." i met people thru them that taught me a lot about sex, and people. They called them swingers back then. I was right at home. I have had open relationships and monogamous . Known prostitutes and dancers growing up. Sex was always very important to me. Now I wanted to settle down and marry a good woman and have children. Met and married a beutifull lady, had 2 daughters grown now. I am 60 now but am healthy and still not bad looking I,m told. But I have been faithfull to her over 30 yr.s...now i want advice, what do you think. Over 3 yr.s ago she went thru her change, menopause. Then told me she no longer wanted to have sex, at all. Said her body had changed and she did,nt want to do that anymore. I have had so many opportunitys to have an affair, but said no. I don,t want to hurt her, and that always comes out. Thought about a prostitude, did that a lot when I was younger. Confidence, butdoes,nt feel right.Over 3 yr.s with only mary palmer to find comfort in. I pushed myself onto her once. It made me feel terrible. What to do?