I'm 20 years old and recently I've been experiencing really bad performance anxiety when it comes to having sex. This isn't the first time I've had feeling like this but it's def. the most intense the anxiety has ever been. I got out of a 2 year relationship with with a girl from my town (who I had a really good sex life with) and moved up to college after a bad breakup. Once I moved into my apartment I met this really cute girl who lives next door. We hit it off pretty quick and she's great but that's when the anxiety started kicking in. I started stressing about whether I would be good enough in bed, whether or not it would work out, would I cum to fast?, could I even get it up? It got so bad that I couldn't eat or sleep and would even throw up before going to see her. I'm currently seeing a counselor on school but the anxiety isnt going away. Ive found that when I'm drunk there is no anxiety so the only sex life me and this girl have is a drunken one. I know thats not healthy but I really like this girl and it seems like the only option at the time. I've had some problems similar to this in the past but never this bad and never for this long. Its been 2 months now and I'm becoming very depressed...I feel worthless and I fell like I'm driving this girl away and she doesnt know why. I'm hesitant to talk to her about it because I havent known her all that long and its very embarrassing. If anyone has any advice for me you'd really be helping me out. I really dont know how much more of this I can take.