As long as fantasy doesn't get in the way of real life, I wouldn't worry about my fantasies.

Hmm might help to post in forums, sweets, in the DiD forum maybe? You might not get much of a reply in the blogs....

Hello Ashley! I never received a formal diagnosis but like yourself I have avoidant tendencies. I was prescribed medication for anxiety in the past which resulted in an unhealthy habit first followed by a period of distressful and long withdrawal phase later. It was not my habit to look into people's eyes at all, my gaze would normally never get any higher than people's lips. I also have a dislike for hugs, but not from everybody. I love to hug and cuddle my children (especially when they were younger and cuddly), I find delight in hugging and kissing my partner and I tolerate my parents' hugs too. But I do remember people commenting on my avoidance of physical contact in the past, some friends and my mum used to make remarks.

It can get better if you set your mind to it, but at the same time not everybody shows affection with the same physical intensity. There is so and so much that we can change ourselves. Once we reach the point we are comfortable with, I find it more convenient and easier to just describe the way I am and see who is going to stick around anyway. You are not alone x

You're welcome here, Joshy. I'm glad you found the forum.

Maybe come and say hello in borderline-personality/ ? Blogs are quite hard to follow conversations in. [Because there's no link when you've posted to someone else's blog.] So mostly discussion here is in the forum. And blogs tend to be used for personal reflection. Introductions. Ongoing stuff. It's totally fine to keep posting here! Just to let you know that you may not get many answers if you ask any questions.

Well,I sure hate to see a young woman treat herself that way. The pressure to have sex has, I suppose, always been strong but in these times it seems more than ever, and as an increasingly younger age.

Do you feel obligated to? If it's an obligation, then no, I'd think not. Do you enjoy it very much? Does it give you a rush ? If it's something you crave, them sure probably an issue. But if you feel like it's expected of you, well maybe not so much. What do you think?