Hi, I'm a new member and have registered in the hope of finding a better understanding and hopefully some peace regarding my intimate relationship with my half sister.

I was adopted at birth and met my biological mother and two half sisters 6 years ago (I was 38 at the time). My two half sisters (the eldest was 28 and the youngest was 25) (and no-one else) never knew of my existence. After my mother disclosed and discussed my "re-appearance" with them, we met for the first time in 2006. From the very first moment, there was a very special bond between my eldest half sister and me. Although I dearly love my youngest half sister and we have a great relationship, which is very supportive and loving, we do not have a physical attraction to each other and we do not share the same level of emotional "understanding" that I share with my eldest half sister.

From the first moment on, my eldest half sister and I shared an amazing bond. I live in a different country to them (my mother and two half sisters), but each time we get to see each other, we have an ability to enter each other's souls in an instant, as if we have never been apart. The "connection" between us has always contained an element of physical attraction, but we never acted on it, nor discussed it. In each other's presence, we were however always stunned by the fact that no-one else picked up on it, since it always felt (and still does) like it was almost "tangible".

In 2008, our relationship became sexual and on each trip since then, we have enjoyed the most amazing intimate moments both she and I have ever experienced. First and foremost, we are truly soul mates and we share an acceptance of each other, that neither of us have ever experienced anywhere else. Our physical relationship is not our primary attraction, but flows from the amazing intimacy we share emotionally. If it were possible and because of society's views regarding relationships like these, we'd choose to exist as "just" half brother and sister, but we both understand that we'd be lying to ourselves if we pretended this to be true.

We are both Christians and love our churches and our communities. I don't have a problem with our relationship in view of my relationship with God, but my sister does struggle with it from time to time. We also understand the consequences (perhaps not fully) of our relationship, both in a community and in our family.

We have not shared our relationship with anyone and my hope is to enter into meaningful discussion regarding our situation, so that I may better understand our options. There is so much more to say, but this will do for a start.

After re-reading my own post, I guess I'm asking if there is anyone else out there with the same experience and how are you coping in society? What is society's response and if you're not in such a relationship, but as a member of society, what is your opinion of such a relationship? We're (me) so stuck on how we "think" everyone views such a relationship, that we (I) don't always consider that there may be other opinions out there.

Also, is it sustainable to enter into society in such a relationship and not to disclose the full extent (intimacy) of it, but just be a (half) brother and sister living together?

Thanks Omnicell, I appreciate the comments and thoughts. I appreciate your perspective and would love to hear what other people think as well. I guess the couple you know could marry because they were step brother and sister. I've actually never thought of marriage - don't know how my adopted status would influence that?
Thanks again. jakeln

I've transfered this "Blog" to the "Relationship" Forum under "General Forums".

Hi jakeln,

What you describe sounds like something called Genetic Sexual Attraction. I am adopted myself, but I don't have any experience with this as I have never met any of my biological family members.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetic_sexual_attraction

Hi Jakeln
I am 40 years old. I met my bloodfather when I was 10 and we have met every now and then, since. In may 2011 he called me and told me thad he had found his daughter who is born 5 months before me. I had been talking to her by phone for two months when we desited to meet. We met and fell in love. She is married (still) and that didn´t stop us from falling in love. From the first moment on we shared an amazing bond, and every time we get to see each other, we have an ability to enter each other's souls in an instant, as if we have never been apart. The "connection" between us has always contained an element of physical attraction. I am still in love with her and she is still married. We sometimes meet but we have met in coffee shops because she has to meet in public, because we basically can´t stay together alone in the same room because of the attraction that is between us. We had a sexual relationship for a few weeks. i can quote you: "First and foremost, we are truly soul mates and we share an acceptance of each other, that neither of us have ever experienced anywhere else. Our physical relationship is not our primary attraction, but flows from the amazing intimacy we share emotionally". So we still meet, and she is trying hard since we stopped the romantic relationship to act like she think she is suposed to be acting. A few people know about this for example our father who took some time to accept the fact that we fell in love, he is ok now. Our brother, my mother, her husband, my friend, her friend and few more. I know this is love, true love.
I hope she will devorce him because I know she is not happy with him and also because I know that we are soulmates with deepest affection for one another.
Best wishes for you all.
EkHeart