I know people are inherently unreliable but I haven't had a good run of things of late. I know there are things to learn but there is some sh1t that just needs to remain in other peoples buckets - and it is important for me not to take on. I do have reliable friends but good friendships take time to deepen and they can be so fragile. Sometimes people can pull some totally stupid sh1t. I am more triggered by inappropriate behaviour because of prior abuse. I also don't weed out drongos because harmful people is my "normal". I'm not perfect either. One foot in front of the other.