The lawer did not answer mails, today I saw her our of the ofice when I was on way to her, and he told me not to go there into the office, becuase the one who is direting the cas "has to do sth very urgent for her".

I just wanted someone to asnwer my question: in what pfase is ma case. Are they trying to avoid the answers?

Hello!
My partner who is living in another country and is few years unemployed too (11 years older then me!), dad of my kid, is said to be interminal stage of desease and I try to achieve fathership for my kid ,using DNA testing, becuase I think it might help to my kid one day, at least to know the rest of his family.

He did not want the kid personally, but I had enorumous wish to have many kids (at least one!) and he decided to do it for me, although he told me he can't afford a kid finantially and we both knew we are doing it just for my wish. He told he would accept the kid as father, but we relied to my job which I lost.

After that, he just avoided to go to institutions for fathersip and my kid has no official father till now.
I hoped him to recognise the kid when we both finantially recover. But in the meantime ge got iss (it was said so) and now I try to get fathership by court way.

Btw, I did not want any money form him, nor I wanted to use (misuse)him. I lived in quite primitive environment and he was the best option to have a kid with. If he said he would not accpet the kid, I would not make it with him. But he was really a honest support to me and my family, only problems appeared when he lost the job too and I believe he would not be able to care about the kid.

The problem is, the thing with lawer is prolonging and prolonging, I send him mails, go to him (even today- but he was not in the office!), so what is the probelm, is the lawer interested or is he "waiting that my partner dies and my kid stays without a fatherhip"?

I really wish my kid woudl have a kind of family (relatives) who woudl accept him and help him in the further life if possible. My family was very clumsy, they did not privide me any kind of "better life", they just had orders, never awards. I am in life unprepared, naive and uninformed thanks to it and I woudl nto like the same to happen to my kid.

Sure there are many "good popel" one meets in life and they help, but I think living without family is stressing itself, isn't it?

What can I expect form the lawer?

Does it not sound very better then "start form the middle?"
Well, let's hope then, it will stay an end and not turn to the "middle".
Without that hope, we would suffer from "paranoia", wouldn't we