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Alcohol?

Postby emaR » Sat Jun 25, 2011 7:46 am

I'm wondering if anyone else here uses alcohol to try to open up to people. I've been trying it a lot lately, and for some reason I can barely even open up to people when I'm drunk. A week ago I got HAMMERED. I couldn't even walk straight, and threw up several times. I still remember everything, and remember being completely coherent and aware of everything going on. I was just incredibly dizzy and nauseous. It's like a certain part of my brain just doesn't want to get impaired when I'm literally drunk off my ass. I'm not sure if this is related to AvPD. Maybe I'm so used to reserving my true identity that I just can't open up to people no matter what.
Has anyone else been able to open up and be their true selves when they're drunk?
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Re: Alcohol?

Postby AlAtBar » Sat Jun 25, 2011 8:12 am

Back in my avier of days I would go out with coworkers every week or two for some drinks after work. It definitely made me more talkative, but I won't say more "open". People seemed to find me funny, but I felt silly, plus I did not like the side effects (besides the obvious, it was very hard on my stomach). I never really got into it. I still get the more talkative feel now when I drink at social occasions at work, it's ok, but not really worth the side effects of taking it too far.
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Re: Alcohol?

Postby techaddict » Sat Jun 25, 2011 8:37 am

I personally have never got drunk or even tipsy. I am such a square. lol.
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Re: Alcohol?

Postby nalin » Sat Jun 25, 2011 11:29 am

When I was younger I sometimes used alcohol to open up, but to get me to "open up" I would have to drink a lot. I also enjoyed drinking by myself more and... well the end result was that it never helped me become more social.
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Re: Alcohol?

Postby Superman23 » Sat Jun 25, 2011 11:37 am

Nope it never helped me open up. Same as you I just got sick.
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Re: Alcohol?

Postby tlepS drawkcaB » Sat Jun 25, 2011 11:48 am

When I drink my jokes become even less funny and make less sense to everyone else but I still find them funny.

So it doesnt really help me.
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Re: Alcohol?

Postby Bad dreams » Sat Jun 25, 2011 1:55 pm

I enjoy a drink on weekends but it does not really help me open up.Just kind of helps me relax. :) after the week at work.
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Re: Alcohol?

Postby VenusWillendorf » Sat Jun 25, 2011 2:07 pm

Just drinking to get the courage to talk to randoms in a bar just for the sake of drinking and talk to randoms in a bar is no good. That does not work.

But when I'm with friends that I like and trust and we have fun together (except the fact that that I'm unable to talk or answer anything but "yes or no" questions when sober), alcohol really helps me to open up and talk to people and behave the way they are used to (we usually talk online, where I'm more chatty and sometimes even assertive).

I met a new guy from our online group just the other week, that I never met in person before, and he was completely baffled by my shy and silent appearance :lol: That was w/o alcohol :( I may meet him again at a party later this summer 8)
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Re: Alcohol?

Postby tine » Sat Jun 25, 2011 7:39 pm

Alcohol is probably the only thing that helps open me up. I know it's not the most ideal solution but it can be a lifesaver in certain situations.
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Re: Alcohol?

Postby TherapeuticChaos » Sat Jun 25, 2011 10:15 pm

Yes.

Most people tell me I'm a better person when I drink. I don't think I'm a 'better' person. I'm the same person. I just usually don't show people who I am when I'm not drinking, because my sober mind tends to over-analyze everything and create barriers.

Drinking allows me to 'not give a [self-censored].'

I'm not talking about 'stumbling down the stairwell' drunk. Just enough to ease my mind, and maybe my tongue.
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