Zero social needs.

All my life I have been socially inept, but these past two years things have gone worse. I have no friends, because I don't have the desire for friendships. I actually don't see any use for friends and consider them useless and meaningless. I quickly lose interest in people, even if they are very attractive and intelligent. Sexually I have been very inactive, nothing gets my attention, unless the person is extremely beautiful (am I asexual?).

I don't feel depressed or lonely, the problem is that I havent the need for social relationships. What disorder is this, is it narcissism? I hope these effects are not permanent, I sure do.

I don't know what 'disorder' you [might] have. Let's just focus on what you've written... Firstly, I doubt that there are truly 'asexual' people out there. If sex hormones are not being produced in the correct amount in the person, then their libido might very well be 'absent', but once they are produced in the correct amounts the libido should return. Things that can affect hormone levels are medication, diet, and depression. You have mentioned depression as an issue - nor that you take medication - so what is your diet like?

Also, what are you doing in life? If you feel 'apathetic' (i.e. not interested in doing anything in particular), then this could contribute to your lack of desire to form friendships.

You might want to look up 'Dysthymia'

Kevin

Well, I have been bullied for several years, so maybe that has affected me. I am awkward in social situations, I can't have long discussions with people, because I don't know about what should I talk. I consider talking a waste time, I speak rarely with people, unless it's important. I can't make friends nor make relationship. I guess I am socially retarted or something?

I want to be normal, but yet it's not bothering me, how can I change, when I really don't see it necessary?

Don't bother changing your name to socialretard, that one's already taken!
I feel your pain, I get encouraged to be social by my family but I can't talk to anyone because I don't know what to talk about, so I just keep my mouth shut and my head down, why bother.

Fenrir wrote: I guess I am socially retarted or something?
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I want to be normal, but yet it's not bothering me, how can I change, when I really don't see it necessary?

You're not retarded at all. What you are is inexperienced at socialising. What is the best way to gain experience at something? That's right - by doing it. Don't fear making mistakes, because they'll happen. When they do [happen], learn and swiftly move on. Friends will come and go in your life, and that's perfectly normal too.

Kevin

I've had a lot of job and physical problems in the past few years. Since 2006 I've had 2 foot surgeries and I've been to many dentists for crowns 6 times. I pretty much have been living in constant pain from both the foot and mouth. Along the way I have lost my desire for human contact too. I think it may be nature's way of telling me to give up and drop dead.

Did someone call me!??!

Have you read about the schizoid pesonality diagnosis. AVPDs do have a longing for friendship but cant manage it whereas schizoids do not really want it in the first place. You should read both closely.

redhorse wrote:Have you read about the schizoid pesonality diagnosis. AVPDs do have a longing for friendship but cant manage it whereas schizoids do not really want it in the first place. You should read both closely.

Well I might be schizoid, I lacked feelings for loooong time, until I lost my pet, which made more emotional ( I can now feel sadness and happiness), though it is still lacking. I feel awkward and anxious in social situations, I do not know what do to and I constantly think what other people think about me.

I am quite shallow, my looks (and others) are very important to me, so I might have a streak of narcissism, which would make things worse.

Am I avoidant or schizoid?

Avoidants want to have friends but they feel too anxious and probably don't have enough self esteem to be able to make friends. Scizoids lack the desire to make friends. You sound more like schizoid. I don't know about the pet attachment. I would think a pure schizoid would not feel an emotional connection to a pet. I have lost my most of my desire for human interaction but I still love animals. I guess it's possible to be AvPD with schizoid tendancies. Many say that as you get older yu tend to maove from AvPD towards SPD. I feel like I have done that.