The ultimate avoidant personality job

I think with all this imagination and energy...I want to be a writer. I could be at home in my little nest and just write my books. Make a living and live in my nautilus shell.
I do want to overcome this somehow...but I'm just not sure where to even start!

Greenhorn on a crab fishing boat in the Bering sea.

Regarding the suggestions for jobs like delivery driver, lighthouse keeper, etc. these involve long periods of isolation from others. But don't people with AvPD actually desire relationships meaning they would actually feel lonely and unfulfilled in these jobs? They sound like jobs more suited to people with Schizoid PD IMO.

Personally I think the ideal job for someone with AvPD is one in a small office. You only have to deal with a handful of people and once you're familiar with the other workers there should be less anxiety and you also have a social element that you can cope with.

A lot of people here might be schizoids with avoidant traits.

The best avoidant job imo would be something easy where I could sit on a computer all day and have access to internet, and would rarely get checked up on to see if I was actually working.

asphyx wrote:The best avoidant job imo would be something easy where I could sit on a computer all day and have access to internet, and would rarely get checked up on to see if I was actually working.

I could do that too. But a former office-mate of mine had it even better - she didn't even have to show up for work until noon. Some days she only showed up for an hour and put herself down for a full day of work.

Parador wrote:

asphyx wrote:The best avoidant job imo would be something easy where I could sit on a computer all day and have access to internet, and would rarely get checked up on to see if I was actually working.

I could do that too. But a former office-mate of mine had it even better - she didn't even have to show up for work until noon. Some days she only showed up for an hour and put herself down for a full day of work.

Wow I really need to get a job like that. What did she do exactly?

Getting up late is important for me too, getting up 6AM for work everyday sounds ridiculous to me, I don't know if I could handle that.

asphyx wrote:[Wow I really need to get a job like that. What did she do exactly?

She's a dietician. She got bumped down to part time years ago - the psych hospital kept shrinking. It was down to 50 patients. Then they decided they should have a full time dietician after the place got decertified. So they gave her full time hours. But when they give her work to do - reports and things -she does such a bad job that they don't ask her to do it again. She's always showing up late for lectures she's supposed to give - people would keep calling me and asking where she was. Sometimes she was out getting her hair done. Our boss would come in looking for her at 10-11 at times and she was never there. But nothing happened to her. Then one day the exec director caught her coming in at noon. I thought something would happen - it didn't.

This crap wouldn't have bothered me too much - but they were overworking me terribly. And my boss actually told me to work overtime without pay. If I put myself down for overtime she would sneer and say it was unauthorized. But I was running a food service operation and had 450 people coming in a day - with only one full time assistant. She gave me permission to close 10 minutes early - like that would have done any good. Then she told me to just make as much food as I had when I had a more reasonable 300 people coming in. I said then we'd be out of food at noon every day. Then she would yell - "just keep doing what you were doing before!" But she wouldn't let me raise prices - which is what I was doing before she was my boss. The place was losing money so I started making better food and raised prices so it would break even. But cost go up and prices have to also. It was terribly stressful - people were doing a feeding frenzy over the prices - but they would complain when I ran out of stuff. And then there were the complaints that I wasn't smiling. Yep - you get jerks like that. Then if I told people the prices were so low because the place lost $3-4000 a month and that it was coming out of taxpayer money -it's a public hospital - most would say that was great. Freaking bloodsucking state employees. I have to give some credit - some would shake their heads like it was wrong. I warned some people that place was turning into a boondoggle - but they scoffed. Then it got shut down 6 months ago. Bosses up in the department above the exec put out word that it was losing $160,00 a year. It was really only losing $33,00 when they gave me a useless friend of the boss who made $64,000 - turning it into a $97,000 defecit. I lost my bob. My hard working assistant lost her job. The no good lazy butt dietician kept hers. Freaking govermnet. No wonder wehave the tea party people claiming they don't want to pay more taxes.

Sorry about the novel.


And I had to get up at 5 am a couple of days a week.

Parador wrote:

asphyx wrote:[Wow I really need to get a job like that. What did she do exactly?

She's a dietician. She got bumped down to part time years ago - the psych hospital kept shrinking. It was down to 50 patients. Then they decided they should have a full time dietician after the place got decertified. So they gave her full time hours. But when they give her work to do - reports and things -she does such a bad job that they don't ask her to do it again. She's always showing up late for lectures she's supposed to give - people would keep calling me and asking where she was. Sometimes she was out getting her hair done. Our boss would come in looking for her at 10-11 at times and she was never there. But nothing happened to her. Then one day the exec director caught her coming in at noon. I thought something would happen - it didn't.

This sounds like the perfect job for a Passive-Aggressive PD!

Actually, the job I have now is rather perfect for AvPDs. I work in the basement of a library putting all the barcodes and stickers and clear plastic covers on the books. There's a team of 5 of us, with no turnover in the last 3 years. I love what I do.

Sadly it's considered pretty unskilled and doesn't look that great on a resume, and disappoints numerous acquaintances and family members who think my college degree should have gotten me farther in life. For a long time I was the only one in the unit with a college degree--including my boss--and even now I am still the lowest-paid person there.

There is also the matter of higher-up bosses who are bureaucratic bullies who target me frequently. They thrive on fear, and they've learned I give off the stench of fear more readily than most others in the office. Hence, I am in trouble for ridiculous minor infractions nearly every week. My coworkers are always telling me to literally stand up to these bully-bosses, and not to let my body language show I'm afraid of them. But that's hard for me.

At any rate--the job itself is ideal for AvPDs--only not if you end up stuck with jerky bosses who plan to stay forever. turnover.

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There is also the matter of higher-up bosses who are bureaucratic bullies who target me frequently. They thrive on fear, and they've learned I give off the stench of fear more readily than most others in the office. Hence, I am in trouble for ridiculous minor infractions nearly every week. My coworkers are always telling me to literally stand up to these bully-bosses, and not to let my body language show I'm afraid of them. But that's hard for me.

At any rate--the job itself is ideal for AvPDs--only not if you end up stuck with jerky bosses who plan to stay forever. turnover.

Even a good job can stink with a bad boss. Getting in troble every week doesn't sound like a good job to me.