your parents.

what do you do if youve got a strained relationship with your parents?

i love my mum but shes really testing me right now.. i moved back in with her last year to save some money and its hopefully not gonna be to long planning on getting some work abroad in the near future, its not ideal but its ok for a temporary thing.

anyway, the thing is i dont blame my mum for the way i am but it is obviously her fault and that leaves me feeling kind of pissed off sometimes when she is doing the same negative behavoirs that probably made me like i am in the first place. ive got a little brother who is a right pain in the ass but i cant help but feel that its her fault hes like that. i dont really think he got enough love growing up and she seems to let him get away with what he wants, then shes surprised when he has bad behavoir and cant possibly think its her fault.. anyway, just things like this piss me off. not being responsible, i think she always made me feel like im a chore for her well it was her choice to have me so its not right to make me feel that way and im seeing the same thing with my brother and even sometimes with my dog..
sorry, my mums not a bad person im just feeling really angry at her right now.

Hey krang. Sorry I didn't try to respond to this sooner.

In dealing with parents you have to realize that they most likey had a bad time of it as a kid too. My mother was a total psycho alcoholic who died when I was 13. I never did hate her for it except that one time near the end when she killed my dog. But I realized that she was a tortured woman who couldn't help but drink herself to death.

My father pretty much raised me. He was really distant. He worked a lot. For a while I was upset that he was like that. Then I realized he just didn't have that ability to connect with people. Not even me. He seemed so lonely. He worked and then went home and drank. Then he retired. He drank even more and got sick. I took care of him after that.

I never did find out all of the details of my parents childhoods. i'm sure my mother must have been sexually abused. She could have had Dependent personality disorder. Dad just was different for some reason. The rest of the family was pretty religious, but not him. I asked him why once and he said he just didn't get it. I never did totally figure it out.