Speaking

So speaking is becoming a problem for me.

I decided, hey lets take a chance and raise my hand in class. So before I spoke on the topic, I did a brief internet search to make sure my beliefs weren't wrong.

So I raised my hand and when I was called on, I blanked. I tried to keep going but I couldn't think clearly and I ended up saying something I didn't mean. And then the teacher basically said I was wrong. But I swear to you everyone that went afterward said everything I tried to say but just couldnt.

My heart was racing and I kept shaking even after it was over. I could feel my heart go through my back.

I can't speak on a regular basis either. My mind blanks then too. I sometimes just want to die because theres no point.

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Same thing happened to me a couple days ago in school. Teacher was talking about something and i understood it perfectly then he called on me to explain something about it and my mind totally went blank.

I have a presentation tomorrow on Canterbury Tales, oh JOY! I really hope i don't blank out on that. I have noticed that the more you do speak the easier it gets, it's just getting the courage to start practicing and getting better.

I have no problems speaking when I have prepared something to say, but in social situations if someone unexpectedly asks me something I just draw blank or say something weird.

heelshouse wrote:

So speaking is becoming a problem for me.

I decided, hey lets take a chance and raise my hand in class. So before I spoke on the topic, I did a brief internet search to make sure my beliefs weren't wrong.

So I raised my hand and when I was called on, I blanked. I tried to keep going but I couldn't think clearly and I ended up saying something I didn't mean. And then the teacher basically said I was wrong. But I swear to you everyone that went afterward said everything I tried to say but just couldnt.

My heart was racing and I kept shaking even after it was over. I could feel my heart go through my back.

I can't speak on a regular basis either. My mind blanks then too. I sometimes just want to die because theres no point.

I completly agree with what Asuka says. But I have paid my attention is the teacher replay. Really, he/she says you are wrong. He/she didn´t take the patience to calm you and give you another opportunity to express what you meant?

I have the same problem and since part of my grading is on class contribution it leaves me at a big disadvantage and a bit in disgust with the educational system.

I've always had trouble speaking in class as well. I never ever want to draw attention to myself so if I can get by without doing it, I do. In college half of my classes had participation as a portion of the grade and it really pissed me off. I feel like raising my hand in class is a no-win situation, I know most of the answers and I feel elitist and nerdy and hated if I answer questions like a know it all. If I get it wrong I am humiliated. Even with out either of these things, I'm going to stammer and be flustered because people are looking at me.

In my school years, I was more confident but I speak up very little at class. Fortunatelly, I had in general, good teachers that gave me the chance to express. No problem at all, with written exams. When I had an oral performance I use to repass it over and over again. I´m not going to say what I comsume before to be more confident.
And now, when I have a meeting with my co-workers or have a meeting with my pupils´ parents. Although I have very clear what to say, I only speak when I don´t have any other option. My brain repeat once and again, not what I´m going to say but how am I going to say it. (before speaking I imagine or anticipate people are not going to listen to me or that they are going to thought that I´m stupid). So, when I begin to speak, my voice is very low and when I get other people attention my voice trembles and I never get to say the half of I wanted to say.

Girl Disappearing wrote:I forget words left and right. Easy everyday words slip my mind and I have to pause and think hard about them..making me look like a complete idiot.

me too, i forget words mid sentence and just stare for five seconds. a neurologist once made me take an epilepsy test because he thought i was blacking out. :/