Do you dislike or are more afraid of people?

This is the first time I put a poll so I don´t know if I´m doing ok.

The purpose is because I arrive to a conclusion.
I´m more afraid of people than dislike them.
I think if we are afraid of people is because we want to be like them, or wish some qualities they show.
On the other point if we dislike them rather than be afraid of is because we see us like in a mirrow.

It´s only my opinion.
Discuss!

As I said earlier, I dislike people. I dislike their superficial stuff, their hypocrisy/double standards, their shallowness, their lies, manipulations and deceptions for their own benefit, etc ,etc. I do hate some individuals, mostly from the narcissistic and histrionic types, but at the same time I do realize that they got a severe problem that can't be fixed that easily. As a whole though, I dislike humanity and couldn't care less if one day I woke up and all were gone except me.

On the other point if we dislike them rather than be afraid of is because we see us like in a mirrow.

I don't necessarily agree with this view. Seeing yourself in a mirror means seeing the exact copy of yourself. This can also be applied to a situation, where if you see it in the mirror, you'll see a reflection of the exact situation. I'm not sure what you want to say from this. Care to explain a bit more?

dbx wrote:

On the other point if we dislike them rather than be afraid of is because we see us like in a mirrow.

I don't necessarily agree with this view. Seeing yourself in a mirror means seeing the exact copy of yourself. This can also be applied to a situation, where if you see it in the mirror, you'll see a reflection of the exact situation. I'm not sure what you want to say from this. Care to explain a bit more?

Ok, It´s more or less as you are explaining, not an exact copy, not cloms. If you dislike a person for being a narcissist, perhaps you´re seeing your narcissist part that you didn´t accept. Don´t you believe that all people have the same human faults. The only thing that varies is the degree.

Zahra666 wrote:

dbx wrote:

On the other point if we dislike them rather than be afraid of is because we see us like in a mirrow.

I don't necessarily agree with this view. Seeing yourself in a mirror means seeing the exact copy of yourself. This can also be applied to a situation, where if you see it in the mirror, you'll see a reflection of the exact situation. I'm not sure what you want to say from this. Care to explain a bit more?

Ok, It´s more or less as you are explaining, not an exact copy, not cloms. If you dislike a person for being a narcissist, perhaps you´re seeing your narcissist part that you didn´t accept. Don´t you believe that all people have the same human faults. The only thing that varies is the degree.

to me it's a double answer with yes and no. I don't like narcissists because I'm the exact opposite of them. I *hate* people who are self-centered, obsessed with themselves, thinking that they are superior and more important than others while it's just an illusion... In fact, and this may sound difficult to understand, I have a limited range of emotions. Ever since I can remember it always drove me "nuts" as to why I can't be jealous about something. There were many occasions in my life where I KNEW I should be jealous but the actual feeling of jealousy never came up. Till today, I still can't figure out why jealousy is not part of my (now very flat) emotions.

As for the varying degree of faults, yes

dbx wrote:

Zahra666 wrote:

dbx wrote:

On the other point if we dislike them rather than be afraid of is because we see us like in a mirrow.

I don't necessarily agree with this view. Seeing yourself in a mirror means seeing the exact copy of yourself. This can also be applied to a situation, where if you see it in the mirror, you'll see a reflection of the exact situation. I'm not sure what you want to say from this. Care to explain a bit more?

Ok, It´s more or less as you are explaining, not an exact copy, not cloms. If you dislike a person for being a narcissist, perhaps you´re seeing your narcissist part that you didn´t accept. Don´t you believe that all people have the same human faults. The only thing that varies is the degree.

to me it's a double answer with yes and no. I don't like narcissists because I'm the exact opposite of them. I *hate* people who are self-centered, obsessed with themselves, thinking that they are superior and more important than others while it's just an illusion... In fact, and this may sound difficult to understand, I have a limited range of emotions. Ever since I can remember it always drove me "nuts" as to why I can't be jealous about something. There were many occasions in my life where I KNEW I should be jealous but the actual feeling of jealousy never came up. Till today, I still can't figure out why jealousy is not part of my (now very flat) emotions.

As for the varying degree of faults, yes

But you think ego as a fault, I don´t see in the same way. In my case, I need to be some seldfish, I agocentric. I see it like a possitive quality. In the world, I the first (for me) like you are the first (for you). I have never met a person who has not got some ego. It´s our nature. I accept my egocentric part. I need do this. I´ve been always a woman who place the others necessities first, but not anymore.

yes, I do have ego but it is very small. For example, in a severe situation which involves others, I'll be the first one to sacrifice, mainly due to my low ego and my very high indifference about what happens to me. When I was a child, I almost gave away all of my toys to friends cuz I couldn't stand seeing them feeling uncomfortable just cuz I had a specific toy and they didn't or couldn't afford it.

Another example, I'm very poor (read: I don't have any money on my own and fully depend on my mom). My mom gives me ~40€/month just so I have something, even though I never use it for anything because, 1) I don't go out my house very often and 2) I haven't had a need for anything for a long period. Some months back, when I went outside at midnight to snap some fresh air, I saw a homeless person lying on the street. I stood there for over an hour watching how others will respond as he was clearly visible. About 50 people passed by, and not one even noticed or gave a $#%^ about this guy. When it became time to go home, I went to this guy, and gave him my 40€ just because I know it's the right thing. I was ready to ask him to come with me inside and spend the night (he looked very harmless but looks can be deceptive) but I knew my mom wouldn't agree so to not make any drama, I just gave him the cash and told him to go to the social office ASAP, which he said he wasn't sure if they'll help him there, but still I insisted that he go.

Another examples:
I love funny people. But I´m afraid of these, and avoid these conversations ´cos I wish have a good sense of humor.

I dodn´t like people who lies even I´m not trust in them, but I have to admit that as Dr. House says: Everybody lie.

dbx wrote:yes, I do have ego but it is very small. For example, in a severe situation which involves others, I'll be the first one to sacrifice, mainly due to my low ego and my very high indifference about what happens to me. When I was a child, I almost gave away all of my toys to friends cuz I couldn't stand seeing them feeling uncomfortable just cuz I had a specific toy and they didn't or couldn't afford it.

Another example, I'm very poor (read: I don't have any money on my own and fully depend on my mom). My mom gives me ~40€/month just so I have something, even though I never use it for anything because, 1) I don't go out my house very often and 2) I haven't had a need for anything for a long period. Some months back, when I went outside at midnight to snap some fresh air, I saw a homeless person lying on the street. I stood there for over an hour watching how others will respond as he was clearly visible. About 50 people passed by, and not one even noticed or gave a $#%^ about this guy. When it became time to go home, I went to this guy, and gave him my 40€ just because I know it's the right thing. I was ready to ask him to come with me inside and spend the night (he looked very harmless but looks can be deceptive) but I knew my mom wouldn't agree so to not make any drama, I just gave him the cash and told him to go to the social office ASAP, which he said he wasn't sure if they'll help him there, but still I insisted that he go.

I love you! well done. I like people like you. And I´m sure your mother would be proud of you if she knew this.

Zahra666 wrote:

dbx wrote:yes, I do have ego but it is very small. For example, in a severe situation which involves others, I'll be the first one to sacrifice, mainly due to my low ego and my very high indifference about what happens to me. When I was a child, I almost gave away all of my toys to friends cuz I couldn't stand seeing them feeling uncomfortable just cuz I had a specific toy and they didn't or couldn't afford it.

Another example, I'm very poor (read: I don't have any money on my own and fully depend on my mom). My mom gives me ~40€/month just so I have something, even though I never use it for anything because, 1) I don't go out my house very often and 2) I haven't had a need for anything for a long period. Some months back, when I went outside at midnight to snap some fresh air, I saw a homeless person lying on the street. I stood there for over an hour watching how others will respond as he was clearly visible. About 50 people passed by, and not one even noticed or gave a $#%^ about this guy. When it became time to go home, I went to this guy, and gave him my 40€ just because I know it's the right thing. I was ready to ask him to come with me inside and spend the night (he looked very harmless but looks can be deceptive) but I knew my mom wouldn't agree so to not make any drama, I just gave him the cash and told him to go to the social office ASAP, which he said he wasn't sure if they'll help him there, but still I insisted that he go.

I love you! well done. I like people like you. And I´m sure your mother would be proud of you if she knew this.

and the funny thing is that I consider myself to be a schizoid who "usually" won't give a ###$ about such a thing. Maybe I'm not a real schizoid? just have A LOT in common with them (always prefer being alone, highly introverted & quiet, emotionally distant and aloof, highly indifferent to most things with the exception of few)... And my mom knew, as I told her the moment I got back home. She went a bit hysteric but after I explained why I did it, she understood and was fine with it, even gave me a hug